u/Jk_Devology

Greetings everyone, love is something where you give everything and expect nothing. But the reality is sometimes that one person is always upset under certain circumstances, and that’s not because they like it, but because context is missing. Let’s assume that the partner slept badly and maybe the partner has already said that many times, but at some point, the partner doesn't say it anymore because maybe it doesn't fit into small talk anymore.

In the end, the partner simply reacts annoyed or overwhelmed because life just isn't like Disney. Slept badly, energy is rock bottom, and you are drained, and you yourself might not notice it strongly anymore in everyday life and interpret too much into it and start reacting more defensively as well. In the end, the partner who slept badly perceives that as an attack because the nervous system is overstimulated, and if it doesn't go boom right away... then it drags on for days...

"Yeah, you're always in a bad mood when I come home" – who knows that?

It's a vicious circle and you have to interrupt it... either you use language for it or tools, just like I do.

But in the end, context is important to understand everything, and with that, you manage to keep drama out of your life, emotions that get you riled up and in the end, you meet with a lack of understanding.

That then reflects on everything... You nag at each other, your partner doesn't understand you, you have stress yourself too, the conversations become fewer and more monotonous, and it's like living in a shared apartment where everyone just functions. The damage is enormous and goes on for years... a creeping process.

If you learn to be empathetic, to understand context, and to look out for each other, then a "meh" relationship turns into a good relationship.

Of course, there are more points that you have to apply... games together, conversations, fooling around etc. with your own thoughts or a tool that you use together to reignite the fire.

There is still a lot that can be said about it... But context is just one of the points and much more.

Hi everyone,

How should one promote a self-built tool? I’m talking about an app... and I mean doing it without a budget. I know, paid ads would be ideal, but that's not where I'm at right now.

The app is very fresh. I’ve released it on the Play Store, optimized the ASO, and I'm currently building guides for organic SEO. I also think the screenshots and visuals turned out quite well.

But posting on Reddit feels like a death sentence 😃 Most subs forbid self-promotion, which I totally understand. And the places where you can promote are mostly full of other people promoting their own stuff, while everyone else is just annoyed which I also get.

I’ve identified my target audience, but even in those communities, promotion is a no-go.

So, essentially, are there any big opportunities left? TikTok keeps me trapped at 200 views, and YouTube is a whole different beast...

If anyone is bored and wants to drop their two cents here, I’d be very grateful.

I’ve been thinking about Revenue Sharing maybe 20% per sale, which would be almost 10 Euros. Is that too little?

I would really appreciate some kind, level-headed advice. And please, don't go "agro" on me (I know, I’m not spending money but still looking for results I don’t expect miracles, I promise) ^^.

Hi everyone,

I’m usually the type of guy who tries to handle everything on his own until the wheels fall off. But I’ve been through the same hell many of you are in right now. Because of my job, I spent over 6 years only seeing my little daughter and my partner on weekends. Our relationship was constantly 'on fire' it was tough, emotional, and exhausting.

We made it, and we live together now, which is a whole different world. But during those years, I had to grow a lot. I had to learn empathy, how to actually understand my partner's needs, and how to solve problems instead of just fighting about them.

I’m a social person and I love helping my friends, so I thought: why not use my skills as a dev to build something that actually helps people in our situation? I didn't want to build a 'get rich quick' app. If I wanted money, I would have built something else. I wanted to build something social, friendly, and genuinely helpful.

I’ve developed two tools. One is for self-reflection, and the other is to stabilize or 're-ignite' the spark in a relationship. They are based on the Gottman method, but with my own twist of empathy.

Here’s the core of it:

• Context: You can see exactly how your partner is feeling in real-time. It gives you that 'AHA' moment when you realize why they just sent a dry text. It’s about traceability and understanding.
• Deep Connection: You get questions tailored to your goals. You both answer independently and it bridges the gap between you.
• Conflict Help: It highlights the factors making you feel misunderstood so you can actually solve the issue instead of just feeling hurt.

I use it myself every day with my wife and we actually laugh a lot using it. It’s been positive so far (fixed a few bugs here and there, obviously), but I’m not infallible.

I really want to know: Does this sound like something that would help you? Or am I just over indexing on my own experience? I’m not naming anything here because I don't want to be 'that' promo guy. I just want to know if I missed a feature that you guys would kill for in an LDR app.

Would you think this is garbage, or would you say: 'Hey, I’d actually give that a try'?

Looking forward to your thoughts.

Yeah, the headline is a bit exaggerated 😃 Sorry. ^^

So, who doesn't know this... (Except for those who aren't in a relationship and lived in a perfect Walt Disney partnership, happily ever after... the end! <- I think that’s how the Walt Disney thing went ^^).

You’ve been together for a while, everyday life slowly creeps in... stress... other problems... kids... more stress... more problems, and so on... Suddenly, a relationship turns into a mutual struggle 😃 You lose yourself somewhere, and the daily grind breaks you... I’ve solved it!

Because of the stress and all the other things, we sometimes overlook how our partner is actually doing, and WhatsApp messages sometimes sound worse than they were meant to be... I’ve solved it!

Sometimes you get lost in arguments, and in the end, it was just small things fueled by misunderstandings... I’ve solved it!

Ideas are no longer spoken out loud because you think your partner might not like them, or you’ve simply forgotten... I’ve solved it!

I’ve been testing this for quite some time now... and through testing, it became a daily ritual, and I have to say, I can’t complain. I’d love to give you an insight into it... what do you think?

ahhhhhh lol i see ... i cant put a screenshot ... damn ...

So okay... The Idea behind it ... To Solve Partnership beetwen two Persons 😃

Hey everyone! I’ve been thinking a lot about what it takes to keep love healthy after the initial "honey moon phase" ends. My wife and I have been together for over 10 years now, and while we are deeply in love, we definitely noticed how the stress of daily life and simple miscommunications via text can sometimes create unnecessary tension.

To help us stay connected, I started building a small, private tool for us to use. It’s a space where we can share our moods, set relationship goals, and answer daily questions that aren't just about the household chores. It has honestly helped us understand each other so much better, especially on days when one of us is just exhausted.

I’m currently refining this project and I would love to hear from this community: How do you all handle those small daily miscommunications? Do you think having a structured, shared "digital space" for your relationship would help you feel closer to your partner, or do you prefer keeping things strictly offline? I Hate homeworks (Stuff to do in tools where you get steps and bla so there isnt that at now)

I’m not mentioning the name of the app because I’m not here to promote it I genuinely want to hear your perspectives. I’m trying to build something that actually supports love and understanding, so your feedback on what features would be meaningful (or what would feel too "robotic") would be amazing. I’m constantly updating my to-do list based on real-life experiences, and I’d love to include some of your insights.

What keeps your love vibrant every day? Would "tech-assisted" communication be a tool you’d consider using to prevent arguments before they start?

Thanks for sharing your stories and advice! =)

Most of you know how it goes: you're in a relationship, daily routine kicks in, or you receive a WhatsApp message that sounds "off" and end up misinterpreting it. How does it end? One person might be tired or in a bad mood and takes it out on the other. The partner starts overanalyzing why they’re acting that way and responds with annoyance... the result? An argument.

What is my solution?

Insight into current moods: You’ll know beforehand if your partner isn't feeling great. This gives you the necessary context for why their messages might be short maybe they only got 3 hours of sleep!

Relationship Goals: Choose specific goals to bring up topics that often get neglected.

Non-generic daily questions: Reignite the spark or at least the understanding through daily prompts that aren't just your standard small talk.

Systematic Conflict Resolution: Arguing is normal, but it's better with a system! Through various prompts, you can resolve issues asynchronously and structurally. Why? Because it’s hard to discuss things when emotions are high. With a shared guide, you gain clarity. Often, you’re just talking past each other and fighting for no reason. 😉

Shared Calendar: I think this one speaks for itself!

Wheel of Fortune: I wanted to include a game with funny, serious, or comparative questions for both to answer. (My wife and I have been together for over 10 years, and we’ve had some hilarious results with this).

Privacy first! Everything is End-to-End (E2E) encrypted. What you write stays between you; nobody else can see your thoughts. On the server, it’s all just gibberish.

The app is designed to be simple, minimalist, and smooth. BUT, it’s not quite finished yet. I’m constantly updating and refining it, which is why I’m looking for couples to test it and provide feedback or feature requests. In return, you’ll get lifetime access (for as long as I’m around or this world exists!).

Just DM me or comment below. I can't let 1000 people in right away, but I have space for 10–20 couples in the first round. It doesn’t matter if you use Android, iOS, or something else.

Best regards!

PS. I translated 1 to 1 from german to english with grok ... so dont annoy me pls with "Its AI speech" Love goes out!