u/JohhnyJohhnyYesPaapa

Hello,

I’m 27M in a relation with my girlfriend since 6 months. We both see life in a different way, I am knowledgeable about most societal issues in a way to not contribute to the harm. I always try to avoid harming others and live my life peacefully but I wont actively fighting for the issues. All I want in life is just peace and quiet. I never had an easier life growing up, I struggled for years just to survive and now I’m a better place. I feel like this is finally my time at peace.

My gf on the other hand who is extremely knowledgeable and aware of societal issues. Unlike me she fights for justice, equality everyday. I admire her soo much because I have never seen somebody that kind and passionate about doing something for people who are not fortunate.

We had a conversation about this couple of months ago but it got emotional so we left it alone. I feel like I would hold her back from doing something that she is really passionate about and something the world really needs. I am so tired from life that I don’t have that kind of emotional capacity. I know I’m young but like I said I went through extremely difficult time and worked my ass off to get to where I am now without any support.

I don’t think we are correct for each other and we both want different things in life. I say this because the activism is creeping into our life. Personal talks become political and extremely deep and depressing for me. I want to sit with her and have the talk about what I’m thinking and possibly have an amicable breakup.

I just want some advice to run my thought process.
Any advice or comment helps. Thank you

I 26M is in a relationship for 7 months with my gf 25F. She is a great person. She is loyal, intelligent and kind. She is always talking about social justice, inequalities etc. I liked it at the beginning of the relationship that I am with someone smart. But after 7 months I am getting affected by this. Usually I am a person who just tries to enjoy my hard earned peace in life, I dont try to think too much about world problems. I work hard to live a good life and try to help the people I know so they can live a better life too. Apart from that I dont really involve too much in anything else. But recently I have been getting bitter at the world, finding racism in what people say to me(sometimes even when they dont really mean it). I already said it to her that I dont share her same activist ideology and would rather do what I can for people I know and love..

I dont like what I am becoming in this relationship, I dont like how my thought process is being changed and how I am getting offended at things that wouldnt have bothered me before. It might be the right thing to call out people but I dont want to, I dont want to ruin my day. I just smile at people and leave without taking any offence in anything. I just dont have that emotional capacity in life. I never had the privilege to live a easy life and this was my chance now and I feel like I’m ruining it.

I want to breakup but also feel like I would be hurting someone who has been nothing but loyal and loving.

Did anybody else face this kind of situation? Any suggestion would be helpful to add to my thought process.

TL;DR: Girlfriend’s activist ideology is effecting me as a person and making me find bad everywhere when I just want to live a calm and peaceful life after years of struggle..