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I’m born abroad and I am planning my ceremony in India soon. Has anyone had a relatively lowkey wedding in India and if so please tell me about it.

Essentially I’m born and brought up in the USA but my parents put in a lot of effort to keep me rooted to my culture. I am legally married but going to get culturally married soon. For context: my partner came here for his masters and we meet during that time but his parents are still in India. I thought I knew my culture well but tbh after interacting with my in laws I’m lowkey lost. He’s from a different state so maybe that’s relevant but we are both North Indian. Does anyone have any good advice to help me navigate? I can include examples but idk what to include.

Examples: they def don’t make as much of an effort with me as they do with my BIL despite knowing me longer. Me and my BIL are both from the same culture and we speak the same language as well so it’s not that he meshes better with them due to same culture.

They indirectly make remarks about my career/education level and tell my partner that they are uncomfortable that I grew up here and don’t really know how to interact with me.

They indirectly mention my height a lot because me and my partner are about the same height (I’m on the taller side).

My SIL crosses my boundaries so I keep a distance and it bothers them but they didn’t really correct her so I had to keep my distance.

Recently I’ve been having career troubles as in I didn’t pass my final board exam. I was off by a few points and they are def more distant and ignore my messages.

They threw a fit that my partner stayed at my parents place with me for 2 months due to immigration troubles and layoff (legit dude had nowhere to go).They kept telling him to stay anywhere else.

My life has been super messy lately and I, for some reason outwardly seem fine but internally I feel so numb. It’s like I’m physically laughing and talking and being OK but internally, there’s this ache. Normally when I’m going through a rough time, I cried out. I feel sad. I feel upset, but I don’t feel that way this time. I guess I’m going through some depersonalization. I’ve been trying to watch some movies and shows and I have been talking with my friends and family and hanging out with them. I even tried to get into some of my old hobbies, but I don’t know something is off. I tried to talk to the people around me about this, but they seem to think I’m fine because I honestly am showing that I’m OK. Do I need to get professional help? This is all so new to me

I’m just trying to get a sense of the overall trend. My priority date is September 2025. We had our interview last month and are now waiting for an update. I understand that some field offices move faster than others, so I’m curious to hear about other people’s experiences.

I am turning 26 soon and I feel like I’m starting a new chapter of my life going into my late 20s. I was wondering if I could get some advice or tips. There are so many things I wish I could tell myself at 20. I just wanted to add this post and get some perspectives and thoughts before my bday.