r/TwoXIndiaNRI

Two weeks ago, I found out my mother had fallen and injured her arm. Despite this, she still has to cook and clean. When I called to check on her, her first response was, “What do you want? Do you need me to send you money again?”

My relationship with my parents has always been complicated. Whenever I try to get closer, I’m often met with taunts — that I’m clingy, that I’m lonely because I didn’t have kids, or asking if I’ve lost my job and need money. Since i have gotten married they make sure to inform me frequently that I’m no longer their responsibility or burden now that I’m married. They rarely ask about my life, and whenever I try to connect emotionally, they seem to push me away or become aggressive in their language. Eventually I withdraw, only to feel guilty for doing so. It’s normal for us to go weeks without talking which makes me incredibly anxious.

Last year, I planned a trip to India, bought presents for everyone and was really looking forward to seeing them, only for them to ask me not to come because they wanted to host another relative and said having me and my partner around was a burden. I ended up cancelling the trip.

The rejection from them since childhood has been incredibly painful. This was in fact the main reason for me to run away abroad at first chance I got. Lately I find myself wondering what I did to make them push me away and treat me like this. At the same time, they’re getting older and refusing any help I try to offer, which makes me terrified about what the future will look like.

For athose of you with emotionally unavailable or rejecting parents, especially aging parents living far away — how do you deal with the guilt, worry and grief of knowing you may never have the relationship with them that you wish you had?

I’m an Indian MBBS graduate and have recently completed medical school. I may be relocating to Austin, Texas after marriage, as my AM setup prospect(Non medico) is currently working in the US. I’ve lived most of my life in India, so moving to the other side of the world feels exciting but also extremely overwhelming and scary.
I’m particularly anxious about adjusting to life in the US—culture, making friends, driving, healthcare, finances, day-to-day life, and generally integrating into the community. I’d really appreciate advice from people living in Austin, especially Indians or other immigrants who have gone through a similar transition.
I’m also hoping to continue my medical career. I’m considering the USMLE/ECFMG pathway and eventually applying for residency, but I’d love to know what realistic opportunities exist for an Indian MBBS graduate in the US. Are there other career options in healthcare I could explore while working toward residency, and how difficult is it to build a medical career as an IMG?
For those who moved to Austin after marriage or from India, what do you wish you had known before moving? What should I start preparing for while I’m still in India?
Please be kind—I’m genuinely anxious and running on very loose nerves thinking about such a huge life change, and any practical advice or personal experiences would mean a lot. ❤️

For context, husband and I share the same hometown, which makes it difficult to divide time between the two homes fairly. Everyone is extremely traditional, and I'm tired of the resistance we have to constantly face just to be able to make our own choices. How do you do it?

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My husband got an offer in the US and we will soon be relocating to the other side of the world. I have lived most of my life in UAE. I also gave birth this year so with an infant. I am really overwhelmed cause it’s a completely new country and am still figuring myself out after becoming a mom. I don’t have a job so will be a stay at home mom until end of this year.

Can someone from the region guide me on how to integrate better in the US (Florida). Please be kind as I am anxious and running on loose nerves thinking of the move

This week I wore a very cute lacy black top and leather shorts. Did little braids on my hair. Added some glitter on my face. And went to a music festival in town. I was really eyeing on the tickets. I bought myself a bottle of wine and sipped on it as I enjoyed the music. Was slightly tipsy, slightly sober, but definitely very present in the moment with the music.

I was all by myself. Not once did I worry about someone staring at me. Not once did I feel scared about someone touching me inappropriately. I got compliments from women on my outfit and I complimented them back. One of them was a 45 year something (also alone) dancing her way.

As I watched the sunset I realised how amazing life is. How safe everything is. How I can be who I am. And how simply being born on the other side of the world (by sheer luck) can change how you lead your life.

Just thought of sharing. I don’t feel like working lol but I hope yall have a nice week

Hello ladies,

Planning to be abroad for a bit and eating out in Europe costs considerably more than eating out in India.

Back home, paying the entire bill once in a while when on a date or out with friends was not a huge financial setback.

The same can't be said for europe.

I'm new here, and I'm really nervous about eating out with new friends because how do you deal with the bill?

Do you offer to split it from the get go, or would that look cheap?

Does one person have to pay?

Should I pay my share in cash, or should I let them pay?

I need advice...

I get really nervous in India in these situations and just end up paying the whole bill to avoid any unpleasantness.

Help me.

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