u/Gold_Market_2605

Hello y’all

I had a baby girl this year and I’m a little terrified of raising her right. The society is so deeply critical of girls that I want to make sure she never has to question herself or ruminate in self doubt so that some toxic man swoops in and misbehaves with her.

I also grew up abroad, so I always had this script that I need to be cautious of how I am perceived socially. This really messed up with me at work as I became a total people pleaser.

What are some things you think help to raise confidence of a girl if she’s raised abroad.

Hey! I’m 3 months PP and I plan on swimming working out now. None of my old swim suits fit me anymore, so I’m looking for a new one. I had a C section and have the mama pooch. Has anyone shopped for a swimsuit post C section? Pls suggest brands/styles.

I want a skort style as I feel very conscious of my body. And anything that hides the pooch. Pls suggest!

I am usually mind your own business type of a person, unless something harms me. If someone doesn’t want kids, I don’t care, you do you. But this new trend of how kids are an inconvenience to public spaces and judgement on “entitled” parents is really disheartening.

They want that kids should not run, play, explore around and stay put minding their own business. I was surprised to see so many negative comments on a scenario where my baby was crying on the flight (which I cannot really help as it causes physical discomfort). This crying is “distressing”. It is distressing but as a parent you are trying to soothe them, I mean, no one likes a crying baby!

One of them went to the extend of sending me a personal message and comparing mothers to her street cat. She says if a cat can give birth to a litter, I am sure it is not a big deal.

There’s just such little grace towards parents and this attitude “it’s your problem”. I am really concerned about all the bitterness towards kids

I btw have really close friends that are childfree and are the sweetest. I understand they are pestered a lot for having kids, so they feel bitter about this topic, but let’s not hate on someone that is yet to develop a nervous system. What’s the difference if your body has grown but you still level up to a kid mentally?

Just wanted to rant because I was so sad seeing it

In Uni I had a big girl gang, we used to hang out and do everything together. Always a call/SMS away in crisis. Now everyone is in different corners of the world and you get replies after 2-3 days. We haven’t met in a decade. And it’s just impossible to make friends as an adult. The only ppl I hang out with are husband’s friends and their spouse or my work colleagues and ocasssionally a gym friend

I just miss having my girl gang with me. End of rant. Just feeling low today

Hi all

I think I look like a complete mess. Have gained 10kgs, have acne on my skin, big eye bags due to sleep deprivation, and have that dry damaged hair look

I am currently breastfeeding, and plan to wean off after the 6 months mark. Thats when my hunger pangs will go down and will be able to workout and actually see results. I will also be able to use retinol and colour my hair.

To other mommas out there, what glow tips can you recommend me? I reaalllllly want to not look like I do. Please suggest glow-up tips. I wanna be that Santoor-mom yall!

I got great suggestions from this community and have started walking now. It has been great for my mental health. I’m exclusively breastfeeding, so I’ve no control on my diet, I am hungry all the time. Pls suggest your diet/meal plans so that I can eat healthy without effecting my milk supply!

I’m 11 weeks PP, and eat eggs and lean protein only

The recent war has really shaken me up. I am scared of the future, more than ever. How do you decide whether you want to move back to India? Also, how is your country for a family? And how easy is it to get visa and work around details?

Context: i am 2nd gen Indian in Dubai, parents have moved back and are retired. They keep visiting me but are happy back in India. I have some savings and flexibility to consider a move. But everytime I go back to India, I realise how I might never belong there. It is also so dirty and chaotic. I am also scared of not feeling free.