u/Juan_ortiz003

Hey everyone, I hope you’re all doing well. I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind because I honestly don’t really have anyone else to talk to about it.

I’m 25 years old and in my last year of medical school. In my country, during our final year, we have to do an internship away from both our hometown and the city where we went to university.

That’s why I’m currently living far from home. Right now, I share an apartment with two girls. One of them was someone I considered my best friend throughout most of university, but lately my feelings about our friendship have changed a lot.

Before moving here, when we were still living in our university city, she had other friends, but we would usually look for each other whenever we wanted company. Sometimes we’d go out, sing karaoke, or just sit on a bench in the park talking for hours about absolutely anything. Our conversations felt endless, and being around her used to feel easy and natural.

This year, we both ended up getting assigned to the same place for our internship, so the three of us decided to rent an apartment together.

After moving here, at first I still felt some of that closeness between us, but little by little it faded away until it felt like there was almost nothing left. Those endless conversations disappeared. Most of the time, I stayed alone in my room while the two of them would go out together or stay in each other’s rooms watching movies.

At first, I really tried to make things feel warm and close between us, almost like a little family. I cooked for them, tried to create moments where we could all spend time together, and hoped living together would bring us even closer. But after eating, they would usually just go back to their rooms, and I’d go back to mine feeling more alone each time.

In six months, they only invited me out twice, and I said no both times because, honestly, by then I already felt like the spark in our friendship had faded. Sometimes when I look back, I wonder if maybe she only got so close to me in university because she didn’t want to feel lonely either, and maybe our friendship was built more on companionship than on a deeper connection.

Now things feel very different. She criticizes me a lot more, gets irritated with me easily, and sometimes treats me harshly over small things. I feel like I can’t really be myself around her anymore because everything I say seems to annoy her somehow. I constantly feel like I have to filter my personality to avoid getting negative reactions, awkward silence, or disapproving looks.

What hurts the most is remembering how things used to be. She used to laugh at my dumb jokes, and now those same jokes seem to bother her. Back then, we had this natural connection where even the smallest things felt funny and comforting.

Maybe we just outgrew each other. Maybe people change, and sometimes relationships don’t survive those changes. But honestly, sometimes when I’m around her now, it feels like I’m with a stranger instead of someone who once meant so much to me.

At the beginning of living together, she also spent most of her time in her room, and I would always call them to come eat together. But even then, after dinner, they’d go right back to their rooms, either separately or together, while I stayed alone.

Once this internship ends, I honestly doubt I’ll ever see her again because everyone will just move on with their lives.

Do you think some friendships only exist because two people are lonely and need company at a certain stage of life? Do you think maybe we simply outgrew each other? I’d really like to hear what other people think.

Thanks for reading all of this, and sorry for such a long post.

Hey everyone, I hope you’re all doing well. I wanted to share something that’s been on my mind because I honestly don’t really have anyone else to talk to about it.

I’m 25 years old and in my last year of medical school. In my country, during our final year, we have to do an internship away from both our hometown and the city where we went to university.

That’s why I’m currently living far from home. Right now, I share an apartment with two girls. One of them was someone I considered my best friend throughout most of university, but lately my feelings about our friendship have changed a lot.

Before moving here, when we were still living in our university city, she had other friends, but we would usually look for each other whenever we wanted company. Sometimes we’d go out, sing karaoke, or just sit on a bench in the park talking for hours about absolutely anything. Our conversations felt endless, and being around her used to feel easy and natural.

This year, we both ended up getting assigned to the same place for our internship, so the three of us decided to rent an apartment together.

After moving here, at first I still felt some of that closeness between us, but little by little it faded away until it felt like there was almost nothing left. Those endless conversations disappeared. Most of the time, I stayed alone in my room while the two of them would go out together or stay in each other’s rooms watching movies.

At first, I really tried to make things feel warm and close between us, almost like a little family. I cooked for them, tried to create moments where we could all spend time together, and hoped living together would bring us even closer. But after eating, they would usually just go back to their rooms, and I’d go back to mine feeling more alone each time.

In six months, they only invited me out twice, and I said no both times because, honestly, by then I already felt like the spark in our friendship had faded. Sometimes when I look back, I wonder if maybe she only got so close to me in university because she didn’t want to feel lonely either, and maybe our friendship was built more on companionship than on a deeper connection.

Now things feel very different. She criticizes me a lot more, gets irritated with me easily, and sometimes treats me harshly over small things. I feel like I can’t really be myself around her anymore because everything I say seems to annoy her somehow. I constantly feel like I have to filter my personality to avoid getting negative reactions, awkward silence, or disapproving looks.

What hurts the most is remembering how things used to be. She used to laugh at my dumb jokes, and now those same jokes seem to bother her. Back then, we had this natural connection where even the smallest things felt funny and comforting.

Maybe we just outgrew each other. Maybe people change, and sometimes relationships don’t survive those changes. But honestly, sometimes when I’m around her now, it feels like I’m with a stranger instead of someone who once meant so much to me.

At the beginning of living together, she also spent most of her time in her room, and I would always call them to come eat together. But even then, after dinner, they’d go right back to their rooms, either separately or together, while I stayed alone.

Once this internship ends, I honestly doubt I’ll ever see her again because everyone will just move on with their lives.

Do you think some friendships only exist because two people are lonely and need company at a certain stage of life? Do you think maybe we simply outgrew each other? I’d really like to hear what other people think.

Thanks for reading all of this, and sorry for such a long post.