How do you cope when they pass away?
Hi everyone!
This is my first post. It has been about 2 months since I’ve gone no contact with my whole family and moved completely to a different city.
Went through pretty much all stages: accepting that things will never ever be the same, not having these people in my life anymore and most importantly, never returning back.
This brings me to my point; I know very well in my mind that if anyone of my parents of grandparents were to pass away tomorrow, I would not bring myself to attend the funerals. It would be a complete character assassination and ambush if i was to attend anyway.
My wife tries to sometimes ease me and say that we could maybe attend if anything was to happen. I always tell her the same thing “ you cannot negotiate with terrorists” . How do you guys cope with this or maybe with the guilt that you will not be attending the funerals of those who caused us harm but they were part of our childhood at one stage. It sometimes scares me. But it is something that it is inevitable … Thank you for your time.