What I Think is the Problem With Asian Parents & Their Personality Type
So I've been into typology and there was a YouTube channel that I came across that claim to be the best when it comes to ensuring that their information is as accurate as possible based on their sources. There's a lot of misinformation out there when it comes to MBTI, so it helps to have information that is concise. I don't think I'm able to name them here, but if you PM me I'll let you know. I'm not able to define all the jargon associated with MBTI, but this could serve as a starting point, at least from what I can garner from what I know. I got myself typed through them and it helped understand who I am.
It's no doubt that most Asian parents that are described in this subreddit are most likely to be the concrete sensor types, or in other words, more in tune with reality and what is known, rather than what is guessed. They obviously aren't the most abstract types, although they are somewhat capable of it through Ne child, but that's more of a child function, basically coming up with possibilities in a way, but they don't actually verify whether they are actually true or not. I think most Asian parents that are described here in the subreddit are probably some form of the ESFJ or ESTJ personality type. Without delving too much into the definitions, they both have Si parent as their 2nd function. That means they'll have Se critic as their 6th function. Critic function basically comes across very judgmental. So in this case, in terms of Se critic, it'll be critical of sensory preferences such as taste in music, art, food, clothes, appearances, lifestyle, etc. Anything non-traditional. They use Se critic to get you to take on their Si parent; if you don't take on their parent. They will criticize anything that you do that's not traditional; they look down on people who are not traditional. If you want to quiet them, you would have to appeal to their Si parent by following their tradition and routines, basically what they are accustomed to, not yours. If you don't take on their experiences, then they'll have a problem with you.
I'm a confirmed typed INFP by the way, and have the 7th function Se trickster. The trickster function is the weakest function of a personality type. INFPs are going to have the most conflict with ESTJ and ESFJ types. My dad is an ESTJ and my mom is an ESFJ. I'd commonly get comments from them saying I'm not normal and like anyone else. And they would criticize the way I dress and look. Basically not traditional. They have Ni trickster, so they don't really look deep into things very well or have an ability of actually knowing what's going on in a deeper level. Or basically thinking that there is only one path or vision to success, that no other vision is possible, such as becoming a doctor or a lawyer to make good money, not any other fields. They're all about past experiences and comparing and contrasting the present with the past.
With ESFJ and ESTJ as parents, more than likely they can't be changed. It's hellish especially for an INFP as they criticize the weakest part of me. I got enneagram type 9, so I'd keep the peace by appealing to their Si parent, but it takes a piece of my soul every time, doing things that aren't aligned with how I feel according to my values. I'd always be wondering whether there is something wrong with me. But in the end, there wasn't.