advice on making trans (mtf) FWB feel pleasure in bed?
I know the immediate response here--"ask her what she likes" and yes, that's great advice, but it doesn't really work here.
i (25f) started hooking up with a trans girl i met on a dating app. shes funny, beautiful, and fun to be around. shes also extremely good at sex--probably the best ive ever had.
but when it's her turn, i sorta dont know what im supposed to be doing with her body? and it seems like she doesn't know either. i ask her what shes into, and she says "oh, whatever." and im like "ok, but like what specifically?" and she's like "literally anything." okay, so i go down on her. she's clearly not into it and eventually asks me to stop, and we go back to just kissing. since then i've tried other things, brought up suggestions, and she doesn't seem stoked about any of it. she loves making me feel good, but seems indifferent when i try to do anything for her. ive asked her if she'd be more comfortable if i didnt try to make her cum. she says no, she wants me to try. but all my attempts fall flat.
its weird to have to say this but in this context feels oddly necessary. im good at sex. in general i know what im doing. but i understand that her body and how she feels pleasure is different from that of a cis woman or a cis man. but she started her transition about a year ago, and i feel like shes as lost as i am on this.
trans women--ideally sapphic trans women--can you shed any light on this? she's been on HRT for a year. can you help me understand better what her body is going through so i can make our sex more pleasurable for her? what would you want me to do if you were in her position?