u/Julli-Law

(I posted on another lesbian sub the same thing, but I also feel like the people here are the most reasonible so I will paste the same post)

I don't know if this needs an nsfw warning but I put it anyway.

I know you don't have to label yourself as top or bottom or whatever, but it is useful to communicate with potential dates or hookups. so basically I want to know what to call myself that is descriptive of what I'm willing to do or expecting.

I'm a femme into butches mainly but masculine women in general, I'm mostly a bottom and like to recieve, more on the switch part regarding sub/dom dynamics. I am mostly a reciever but I'm not a pillow princess, I also love eating pussy. like really enjoy it and get into it, but I feel like it's not true to call myself a verse? as that would imply I'm into other forms of giving pleasure, or not? I don't have much experience since I only recently I started putting myself out there (I finally got the courage to do it as someone from a very homophobic country), and I don't want to come off as decieving to someone who is either looking for a full on verse or is expecting a stone bottom?

Also how do I communicate being a bottom without making the masculine woman feel like I'm making her the man in the relationship? I haven't even dated men before to know what that is in the first place, but the other party might have experiences with male centered women, I don't want my lack of experience to manifest into something triggering to them.

sorry for yapping alot but is this a valid concern 😭? I would like to hear your experiences with this.

I don't know if this needs an nsfw warning but I put it anyway.

I know you don't have to label yourself as top or bottom or whatever, but it is useful to communicate with potential dates or hookups. so basically I want to know what to call myself that is descriptive of what I'm willing to do or expecting.

I'm a femme into butches mainly but masculine women in general, I'm mostly a bottom and like to recieve, more on the switch part regarding sub/dom dynamics. I am mostly a reciever but I'm not a pillow princess, I also love eating pussy. like really enjoy it and get into it, but I feel like it's not true to call myself a verse? as that would imply I'm into other forms of giving pleasure, or not? I don't have much experience since I only recently I started putting myself out there (I finally got the courage to do it as someone from a very homophobic country), and I don't want to come off as decieving to someone who is either looking for a full on verse or is expecting a stone bottom?

Also how do I communicate being a bottom without making the masculine woman feel like I'm making her the man in the relationship? I haven't even dated men before to know what that is in the first place, but the other party might have experiences with male centered women, I don't want my lack of experience to manifest into something triggering to them.

sorry for yapping alot but is this a valid concern 😭? I would like to hear your experiences with this.

I have made a new group of friends, all are sapphics and mostly lesbians. I'm the one who put in the effort to find all of them and put them together in one place, so I'm used to them praising me for it from time which often turns into fake flirting, I didn't mind it before. On of them recently started flirting extra, like lot. I didn’t think much of it until she also started making sex jokes with me alot, and when I say I would prefer if she didn't make them she would tell me to stop being a puritan. And very recently, she would take pictures of me randomly (only me out of the whole group). She does all of this WAY more when I'm tipsy or drunk. I have made it clear to everyone I'm not looking for a partner right now, and even so I have no interest in her at all, she's very far from my type or what I'm looking for in a partner. I can't tell if she's being pushy or this is just normal friends stuff? I'm genuinely nervous sometimes around her.