Hi guys, pls don’t pitchfork me if this isn’t the right place to ask this question I’m really new to this website lol😭 I recently read a really good HP fanfic and I have been really craving a good fanfic/book with the setting of some kind of fantasy school where they learn stuff like magic, self defense, etc! Does anyone have suggestions on this? Thank you so much!!
Hey guys I (19M) am a college student and I just finished my first year. In my first semester, I met a girl who I clicked with immediately. I loved being around her and we started hanging out basically every day. We never really talked about dating each other, but I just kind of assumed the feelings were mutual. We often flirted with each other and went on what were practically dates. When we went to parties, she would hold my hand and kissed me once.
I told her my feelings a few months ago and she seemed really shocked when I told her and told me that she only saw me as a brother. We went no contact but then saw each other at a party a month later. She got super drunk and clung to me the whole night, saying stuff about how she missed me and wanted to give things a try. She tried to kiss me multiple times but I told her no since she was drunk and I don’t drink.
The next morning, she told me she made a huge mistake and didn’t mean what she said. I got pretty upset because why she would say all that stuff to me if she didn’t mean it? I basically accused her of leading me on, and most friends say that I was in the right for because they think that she was just trying to get all the benefits of a boyfriend without the label. But other friends say that she was drunk and there was no expectation of a relationship so I should just let it go. Was I actually being led on by her? I would appreciate any advice on this.
Has anyone else experienced being put into a kind of “category” of women? I feel like this has happened to me all the time. I have been compared to the typical “manic pixie dream girl” character all the time. Guys have compared me to Summer from 500 days of Summer, Romana flowers, and Ruby Sparks. My personality is in all honestly strange and I do not read social situations well but I am a decently attractive woman so I feel like it comes off as “quirky”. It frustrates me because I feel like guys think I’m supposed to be this one genre of woman, and then when I’m not they get annoyed at me and the fact that my genuine flaws aren’t “cute“ or “quirky” enough. I am of course diagnosed with ADHD so I always get left behind once a guy realizes that I have actual problems I deal with . I’m so tired of not being seen for what I actually am and I wish I could avoid being put into this category of women.
Hey guys, I’m really new to this website and this story probably isn’t very exciting. But I have no where else to talk about this so I was hoping someone could provide insight or a different perspective.
I am a female college freshman and I had a friend first semester that I was super close with. We hung out all the time, got dinner together, texted and sent each other videos, etc. Every time we would see each other, she would hug me and we would be able to talk for hours. We were super close and we talked about literally everything together. Also, my friends this that this one instance is relevant so I’ll mention it but I don’t really think so. During a halloween party, I was drunk and I confessed to her that I felt really ugly (what 18 year old woman doesnt feel this way?) and she said “No, you’re actually so pretty. If you weren’t straight…” and then she didn’t finish her sentence. I was drunk and I know she probably drank too so I really don’t think that’s important. People say stuff they don‘t mean all the time when they’re intoxicated lol.
Since we live in the same hometown, I texted her over winter break asking if she wanted to come over and bake and watch a movie. A few hours later I wasn’t concerned. Shes probably just busy, afterall. But then hours turned into days and it had been 2 weeks since I sent the text. I texted her again, still no response.
I texted her a month after the first text. That was back in January and she still hasn’t answered me. So of course, I was extremely worried that I had done something to offend her. But if I did, wouldn’t she unfollow me on social media? Wouldn’t she stop sharing her location? And when I saw her again on campus, she smiled and waved at me? That interaction made me feel so sad because I missed her friendship so much.
I am honestly so confused about this. Of course as a now adult, I have experienced a few friendships that have fell apart throughout my life. But there was always a clear problem in the relationship in those instances. I don’t think she hates me, but then why would see pretend like I don’t exist?
Again this is probably not exciting to read so I apologize. This is also super long so I don’t really expect anyone to read or respond but it’s nice to type everything out. But if you feel like it, please help me figure this out. I know this might come off as selfish but I honestly miss her so much as a friend in my life. She was so wonderful to be around and she was one of the only people I could hold a genuine conversation with for hours. And it’s so hard to make friends in college lol😭 Thank you for reading ok have a good night everyone 🙏