u/Jumpy_Drink_3546

I’ve (21F) been in this weird situationship with this guy (24M) for about a month. He came on very strong at first and we quickly entered a fwb relationship. After we had sex the first time, he asked if I wanted a serious relationship but I said no because I was worried about us graduating soon and doing long distance. We agreed to keep it casual and to be aware that things would end after graduation.

We ended up having a pregnancy scare and the lack of concern he showed was concerning. He kept saying he was too busy or sleepy to be there for me, and when I wanted to end our fwb situation he said I was making him feel like it was all his fault. Even though I clearly stated it wasn’t and that I knew it was both of our faults. I know I shouldn’t have looked to him for comfort after his reaction to things but he came over to cuddle and just talk. It ended being fine because I took plan B and took a pregnancy test which turned out negative.

This led to us seeing each other up until now. I went home to see my family for a few weeks, so we are very far away from each other. We’ve been gaming almost daily now and I’ve been getting this weird feeling that if he left I would be upset. I don’t know why. This guy is definitely not boyfriend material. It’s fun to hang out but the whole pregnancy scare thing showed me I can’t rely on him.

I know the obvious answer is to stop talking to him, I’m already beating myself up for getting attached. I just need some advice on how to stop romanticizing him.