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I’m tired of the cycle.

Match. Text for a day or two. Things seem promising. Then one of us loses momentum, another conversation takes over, and it quietly fades away. I don’t even blame anyone anymore..it just feels like we’ve become too accessible, and because of that, nobody really sticks around long enough to build something real.

A little about me: I’m originally from South Asia and I’ve been in the US for about 3 years, currently working as a data scientist. I have an accent, and there will be things about each other’s cultures that we won’t immediately understand. If you’re willing to learn instead of expecting familiarity, I think that’s a pretty good start.

What I’m looking for is actually quite simple.

Someone who’s okay being bored with me.
Someone who’s happy sitting in silence sometimes. Someone who’ll see me bloated, fit, stressed, happy, and know I’m still the same person.
Someone who’s ambitious..not just in their career, but about building something together. Maybe it’s a business, maybe it’s a hobby, maybe it’s just a ridiculously long Snapchat streak. I don’t care what it is. I just want us to have something that connects us beyond physical attraction, because we both know attraction alone isn’t enough. My current preference is for someone within the US just coz it’ll be easier to connect considering the time zones. I encourage people from all shape, size, color and age to dm me if they feel confident in their ability to match the above criteria..I promise I won’t bite.

If you’re looking for constant excitement, I’m probably not your person.

If you’re looking for someone to build an ordinary, imperfect, meaningful life with, maybe we should talk.

As queer people, so much of our daily existence is spent dealing with things most people never have to think about…acceptance, family, safety, relationships, and just trying to exist. Because of that, a lot of the more “ordinary” but equally important conversations rarely make it to the forefront. Money is one of them.

I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.

What does money actually mean to you?

Not in the “money can’t buy happiness” sense, but genuinely. At what point did you feel financially secure? Or do you still feel like you’re chasing that number?

If you’re comfortable sharing:
Age
What you do
Income (only if you’re okay sharing)
Approximate self-made net worth (excluding inheritance)

I’d also love to know what helped you get there. Better career choices? Investing? Taking risks? Moving abroad? Starting a business? Or just years of consistency?

I don’t see enough honest conversations about personal finance in the Indian queer community. Our journeys are often very different, and I think there’s a lot we could learn from each other.

This isn’t about comparing or flexing. I’m just genuinely curious about people’s stories, what worked for them, and what they’d tell someone who’s a few years behind them.
Would love to hear your journey.

26 | York, United States of America | I’m just looking for someone to build an ordinary life with

What does money mean to you?

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