u/Just-A-Fan-25

As Ive since found myself aligning with transmedicalism, I‘ve started seeking more answers from anti trans med ppl about genuinely why they think theyre trans if they dont have dysphoria. I posted a rather neutral question on r/ tooafraidtoask but it got immediately removed bc being trans is a hot topic rn with a lot of discourse ig. Does anyone know a place where the mods aren’t cowards and I can ask my questions?

Also to clarify—Im absolutely a pacifist when it comes to conflict and I try to keep an open mind when talking to people with differing views (even if i disagree) so Im not asking for subreddits to raid or anything but just a common ground place to ask questions and receive answers.

The amount of trans larpers that dont have dysphoria, won’t transition or try at all to present masculinely, and refuse any kind of medical intervention are getting out of hand. Its so common that I see “transmasc” or “trans men” identify as lesbians or call it anti traditionalist to look, act, sound and dress like a woman. In reality, you are perceived as a woman and therefore adhering to the gender stereotypes you oh so despise. It pisses me off that both sides of the spectrum (transphobes and “allies”) are against hrt or any medical intervention for transitioning. It feels like no one is a safe space to talk to bc either way Im not a man—whether its bc my conservative friends see me as a confused woman or my progressive friends see me as some third gender (that im not).

As of starting hormones, Ive had the luxury of passing so I havent been out as trans to anyone new I meet but its frustrating feeling like I cant say anything that might put me on their trans radar bc of this horseshoe theory shit. Hell, even the ftmmen subreddit got fucked over by these “transmasc lesboys” or wtvr the fuck they are.

To just get everyone on the same page, I have a libido and I find people sexually attractive but when it comes to actually having sex and even just the things leading up to, I feel nothing. It's not not enjoyable or something I dislike, but it feels like kind of mundane like I'm just socializing. Beforehand, I'll get excited especially if I'm scheduling with someone and we chat a little about things. It's just, in the moment, I stop really caring almost as if I've gotten what I've wanted from the exchange. Sometimes I'll actually begin to dread having to go through with the plans and it feels like a chore.

Also don't worry, I have since stopped sleeping around because it felt like a lot more work than the "letting loose" mindset I wanted from it. But despite all of this, I still experience sexual attraction and fantasize about people which makes me hesitant to believe that what Im experiencing is asexuality and not a form of anxiety. Idk, thoughts? Takeaways?

Okay so since I was in like elementary school I've always had poor vision in one eye and finally got glasses in high school. My optometrist just thought it was really odd I had roughly 20/20 in one eye and 20/150 in the other but never mentioned it being an actual thing. Well, today I just found out about myopic anisometropia after having a weird thing happen with my eyes adjusting to light and being a hypochondriac, I had to make sure it wasn't serious.

Long story short, I have all of the symptoms of myopic anisometropia and was wondering if I should get it diagnosed. I'm unsure if it's serious enough to warrant treatment other than glasses (that I hardly, if ever, wear nowadays).