u/Just_Inevitable5868

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I love the kids I chose not to have…

I’m disabled. A woman. I recently made the grueling decision to not have children for their own sake. I can’t provide them with a life that they deserve.

When I made that decision, I started loving my hypothetical children like crazy.

I know that they never existed, but I didn’t realize that I could love someone enough to give them up.

They would have been my kids, so I had to act as their protector before they could ever exist.

I’m struggling… I miss them somehow. I think I learned how to love like a mother…

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u/Just_Inevitable5868 — 12 days ago
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I love the kids I chose not to have…

I’m disabled. A woman. I recently made the grueling decision to not have children for their own sake. I can’t provide them with a life that they deserve.

When I made that decision, I started loving my hypothetical children like crazy.

I know that they never existed, but I didn’t realize that I could love someone enough to give them up.

They would have been my kids, so I had to act as their protector before they could ever exist.

I’m struggling… I miss them somehow. I think I learned how to love like a mother…

reddit.com
u/Just_Inevitable5868 — 12 days ago