AIO About My 6yo Taking a Bath
A little bit of background: My son (6M) has been having a lot of trouble with hygiene. He claims that he uses soap and scrubs himself, but whenever he comes out of the bathroom his hair still feels greasy and doesn't smell great. We have been having him shower instead of taking a bath so that he might consentrate more on actually getting clean and less on splashing around.
So this weekend my in-laws were over so that FIL could help husband with some construction. MIL came along to spend time with my son. Of course whenever Grandma is home he wants her to do EVERYTHING for him, and she is happy to help. She helps him get his drink for dinner, she helps him get ready for bed, she reads the bedtime story, etc. This means she also volunteered to take care of bath/shower time.
Here's the issue, I knew this was coming as soon as I found out they were staying till my son's bed time. So at dinner I explained to MIL that we have been making my son do showers instead of baths to help him get more clean. MIL even offered to "give him some pointers" because maybe he'll listen to grandma. I wasn't thrilled about her being in the bathroom with him, because I feel like it's overkill to baby him that much, but I didn't say anything because it would just be a quick shower.
Guess who got an hour long bath last night. Yep, my son. I didn't want to confront MIL directly because she already doesn't like me much. All he said was "well, it's grandma rules". I told him, in my house it's my rules.
I'm really upset by this, both in my MIL and in my husband's response. It's not even an issue of him taking a bath. I don't care how he gets clean as long as he gets clean. My issue is that I explicitly told MIL that we have him take showers, and she had him take a bath (a really long bath) instead. I may be biased because this isn't the first time she has gone directly against my wishes, or the first time my husband has just blown it off.
So, am I overreacting?