u/KYBourbon89

Please feel free to skim. Libras, I love you but why?!

I’ve had 2 back to back relationships/situationships with Libra men. The first Libra sun, Cap Moon, the other Libra sun Sagg moon. (Aries sun Libra moon). We’re all in our 30s.

Both of these men after 7-8 months pulled the rug from under us the moment it got serious. You know, that moment where they let the wall down, and accidentally reveal their true feelings and love for you and it’s reciprocated and now the time to really show up or go to the next step is there?

One ghosted me, I reached out and he treated me like I was nothing. Said he was seeing someone new now. (IT WAS A LIE!) came back months later begging for me back. And still couldn’t handle it. Came back again and I’m like, no bro.

That bleeds into the next one who was the opposite. No love bombing and moving fast. He kept me at bay and made it all about sex (we still have not had sex). Just pics andsexting a lot. Overtime, convos got more meaningful and then we had a personal connection and he was getting comfortable. I told him he was holding back because he KNEW we would click and to let go. Lol yeah right. Well omg, we spent time together and it was unreal chemistry, he had let go. He was vulnerable and I could see his tough shell was all a facade. Months later, one day he slipped and said something so deep and I realized he was officially in love. I even remember jumping up at my desk at work like “does he realize what he just said to me! 😻) and just like that, all down hill from that day. He ghosted me after that..we were even supposed to see each other that afternoon and he stopped replying….and days later when I told him I wanted to see him. He literally said “new phone, who’s this?” I’m not effing kidding!!!!!!!!!! I thought he was being funny so I reacted like what? Then he repeats it. I tell him who it is and he never said another word. It’s been weeks.

I can’t believe it yet again. The feelings were there and it was mutual and strong. But put up or shut up time comes and they flaked on me and in the coldest ways! I know neither of those men were talking to any other women. That usually comes with slow fade.

It’s the coldness that they rejected me that is actually hurting my feelings and making me really doubt myself. What gives? Are they uncomfortable? Is this a thing? They always welcomed my advances but when it was time to really show up for me, run! (I should mention both men flaked right before my birthday)

I posted about one of my exes in here before. I passed through his hometown recently and one of my parents mentioned his family’s business wasn’t there anymore. I ignored it and went on about our trip. Weeks later, I got some strange and very intense urge to look up his house address because something told me to. — His house is on the market and vacant. I knew at that moment, it meant his wife left.

I went to the county website and typed in his name, boom…she filed for divorce 16 months ago and it was QUICK! Over and done in less than 5 months. She never even changed her name to match his.

I spent years thinking I was missing out, they’d have beautiful babies, live the best life. It only got worse after the said I do. And now, all signs point to him living with his dad. Mid 40s. (I refuse to look up his socials still).

He is now twice divorced and his fear of choosing me in the end was that I’d want a different life than he did long term. (He likes simple and I’m city and work in corporate). I was willing to do whatever he wanted. But oh well.

Just thought if share. This man did the most heartbreaking thing to me years back. And now it means NOTHING.

You’re not a failure because you didn’t get picked. You are failing because you aren’t getting over it. It always works out in the end.

You have to BELIEVE! And love yourself. Match their stoicism. Go thrive!