Feeling disgusted - a warning to NOT lower your standards
Is there any way to report after unmatching him after 30 days? Am I being too harsh I live in a big city and I just don’t want this to happen to anyone else.
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25f So I just went on a first date with a guy I met on hinge 30M, I wasn’t super attracted to him but I find that attraction for me is not instantaneous like I need to build an emotional connection first. He seemed sweet in the in app messages and we had common interests like reading fiction which I thought was a green flag so we moved to insta.
Anyways we met up and brought icecream and he was friendly but looking back maybe a bit too complementary about my figure and how he really liked how “athletic” I was. I laughed at his athletic comment cause the only main exercise I do is walk my dog so I’m no athlete. I thought that would be it after I brushed it off I’m not good with taking compliments but then he started talking about how he thought I would stand him up. I asked him why and he said that skinny girls never match with him and how he was in exact words “tired of whales in his dm”. I was in shock for the rest of the date and thankfully I was in a public place so I was able to leave and blocked him right away since I just felt so disgusted.
I’m still in shock at the language he used and I find it a bit ironic especially so since he’s not the most fit looking guy (that’s not my type anyways) plus 30 is a bit older than what I usually date. At 30 I thought he would be more mature especially so how he seemed to read as a hobby. I usually date same age or at most 1-2 years older so maybe that might be why too. But he had a bit of a dad body as well and tbh that didn’t even matter to me until he brought up the whale comment.
Anyways my friend is saying that I should have reported him and lowkey I wished I did since I felt kind of fetishized with some of his comments as well. But I guess you live and you learn and I’m going to be taking a break and perhaps deleting the app since that was a really negative experience.