u/KaleidoscopeHuge9169

29M here. And honestly, I’m getting tired of these posts where guys complain about being forced into marriage.

Forced? I don’t even know what that feels like.

In my case, it’s the exact opposite.

No pressure. No discussions. No proposals. No effort from parents or relatives.

I’ve clearly told my mom and hinted to relatives—both directly and indirectly—that I’m open to marriage. I’ve even been in a relationship before, so it’s not like I’m clueless or avoiding it.

But still… nothing moves.

And that’s what’s bothering me more.

All these posts about “pressure” almost feel like fearmongering to me. Because from where I stand, silence is scarier than pressure. At least pressure means someone is pushing you forward in life. Here, it feels like no one is even thinking about it.

So when I see guys rejecting girls, avoiding meetings.. I genuinely don’t get it.

What exactly does it take for families to start looking seriously?

Is it money? Status? Initiative? Or just luck?

Because I’ve done my part by communicating, and still there’s zero movement.

Anyone else in a similar situation where there’s no pressure at all—but also no progress?

Which is worse in the long run—being pushed too much, or not being pushed at all?