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Hi guys, my relationship of 5 years ended last night when my gf decided to dump me.
I am heartbroken and drunk.
Have an important interview tomorrow 10:30 am, I don't think I will be able to give it tomorrow, suggest me what reason can I give to HR to get it rescheduled to Tuesday.

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Had fight with my wife .... feeling not so great ...don't know if she is right or I am?

Me and my wife had a baby recently...my wife said she wants independence to care for the baby as she likes ...and doesn't want me or anyone to decide much about initial care and all ...i agreed

We had a nanny and a maid to help her with everything and i offered to be there as well...but I work 10 hours and cannot take leave

She took career break...also she says she knows better in the initial stage and wanna do things according to her for initial 2 years atleast without questioning much

Initially for first 3-5 months baby will sleep max 2 hours continuously...she slept with the baby this time and along with her nanny also sleep in same room for help

After this baby started sleeping 4-5 hours continuously without waking up so she would turn on baby monitor and come to my room and leave the baby to sleep and go to baby when he wakes up

Now our baby have turned 11 months ...he sleeps 10 hours per night without waking unless anything happens ...but even little bit noise wakes him up

My wife now turns on the monitor and leaves him to sleep after putting him to sleep and come to my room ...and sleep with me full night

Now we everyday argue...I tell her that it's wrong for kid to sleep away from parents and he should sleep with me and her

She said baby's need sleep training and whatever...she says baby sleeps at 8 pm and we sleep later and we will not even be able to talk and baby will get disturbed....and whatever excuses she makes

I feel she just want to sleep in our room and what's the baby to stay in separate room...and she says separate room is better...but I say sleeping with parents is better ....now she doesn't let me sleep with the baby alone either much. ..on weekends we do that tho and sleep with baby on weekends

Now I'm confused what's right? Separate room or together?

Women redditor in AIM sub are complaining men do not know how to have sex but thinks it's enough for women to just lie down and spread legs.

Basically wants men to get a master in Kamasutra but women can get away playing dead.

Women are doing the basic act of lying down and spreading legs is enough for men??

For me it's not as I don't support necrophilia with someone alive/s

When i post this in AIM people get confused about the questions :

This is yes or no questions

So yes it is enough

Or no it's not enough

It's kind of like an opinion poll

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I have to get this off my chest because no one else is saying it.

After you have a kiid, a lot of wives just... switch off. Emotionally....

The same woman who couldn’t keep her hands off you suddenly has “no time”, “not feeling well”, or is always busy with her parents and the baby.

You calll every day trying to check on her, and she barely gives you two minutes. But the moment you stop calling for a couple of days, she immediately messages asking why you’ve gone silent.

We’re supposed to like go to work, provide, hit the gym, stay strong but the second we show we need some emotional support or intimacy from our own wife, we’re made to feel like a burden.

I’m not saying all women are like this. But this pattern is way too common, especially in love marriages. The same girl who ran away with you for “true love” seems to lose all interest the moment the baby arrives. Some even does this before baby! wth is happening?

Society only talks about women’s mental health after delivery. Nobody talks about the husband sitting alone in another city, feeling emotionally abandoned and sexually rejected, slowly dying inside while pretending everything is okay.

If you’re a new father feeling neglected, unwanted, and lonely in your marriage this is for you. Wanting your wife’s attention and affection doesn’t make you weak. Your mental health matters too.

Let’s stop suffering in silence

I was bored and at home, so masturbated 5 times yesterday. And now one my testicle feels a bit sore, it’s a bit embarrassing to tell my parents, I jerked after the pain and everything is normal in that sense. Can’t see or feel any difference, there is pain like soreness. It’s not a lot of pain but I’m scared.

I have seen woman in love with most toxic guys the guys abuse them scold them still they love their husbands..

On the contrary if the guy is caring and soft woman take advantage of this and file false cases or start abusing men.

What's your take on this?

A few days ago I posted here asking whether I could trust my wife again after discovering she had worn a bikini in Goa, hidden the photos from me, and asked her friends not to tag her.

First of all, thank you to everyone who took the time to comment. I didn’t agree with every opinion, and I thought some people were jumping to conclusions. Looking back now, I can understand why many of you were as suspicious as you were.

After our conversation, I couldn’t shake the feeling that something still wasn’t adding up. The guy I had briefly seen in a couple of Instagram stories kept bothering me, so I tried to find out who he was.
I eventually found his Instagram profile.
One of my wife’s friend’s posts had a comment from him saying he’d enjoyed meeting “them” and mentioning they should plan a hiking trip together sometime. His profile was public, and that’s where I saw a lot more than I’d seen before.
It turns out he didn’t just appear briefly in the background. He met my wife’s group in Goa at Vagator Beach, and from his highlights it looks like they spent more time together afterwards, including at another place with a pool.
There were 5 stories featuring my wife. In one, he had lifted her in his arms. In another, his hand was around her waist, lower than I was comfortable with. There was also a photo of just the two of them together. Yes, he had similar photos with other women from the group as well, but that doesn’t make me feel any better.

And these are only the stories he chose to save permanently. I have no idea what wasn’t posted or what has already disappeared.

To be clear, I have no evidence that my wife cheated physically, and I’m not going to accuse her of something I can’t prove. But at this point, that’s almost secondary to me.
What hurts is that she didn’t just hide the bikini thing. She hid this guy too.
When I first asked about the man in the stories, she brushed him off as just someone from another group. She never mentioned that they’d actually spent time together or that there were photos like these.

Now I find myself questioning everything she’s telling me because every time I discover something new, it’s something she chose not to tell me.
Some people will probably say I’m overreacting because none of this proves an affair. I am sure they’re right. But everyone has different boundaries, and for me, this crosses mine. If the roles were reversed and I was lifting another woman in my arms, holding her around the waist, taking photos together, and then hiding all of it from my wife, I know exactly how she would feel.
The lying and the deliberate concealment have done more damage than the bikini itself ever did.
If we didn’t have children, I honestly think this would be a deal-breaker for me. But after seven years of marriage and with two young kids, walking away isn’t a simple decision. She’s a housewife, and divorce would have enormous emotional and financial consequences for everyone involved.
Right now I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do. I have a lot to think about before making any life-changing decisions.
This will probably be my last update on the situation.
To everyone who commented, whether I agreed with you or not, thank you for taking the time to respond. I genuinely appreciate it.

Guys, let’s be brutally honest....

Today’s women are addicted to attention like never before. Instagram, reels, stories, DMss it has become their main source of validation. They post photoss, poses, and “deep” captions not for fun, but to collect likes, comments, and thirsty messages from random guys. That dopamine hit has become more important to many of them than real-life relationships.

You can clearly see the pattern:

• When you give them constant attention and chase → they become cold, take you for granted, and reply dry.
• When you completely stop and go silent → suddenly they notice and start reaching out, asking “why are you ignoring me?”..lol

This is not love or genuine interest. This is attention addiction. Once they get their daily fix from dozens of guys online, they don’t value attention from one man anymore.

The smartest thing any man can do right now:

I have quit my socials before 5 years, god its been such a relief, now a days its simp epidemic.

Completely ignore it. Stop chasing.

Need suggestions from people who have actually been with gold diggers like how they talk manipulate and how they influence you to pay how they show love and affection?

Please help a young guy out! Tips, tricks, experience stories are welcome! Marked NSFW just in case.

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So this story is about my close friend from college. He’s been dating this girl- let's call her "Alia" from our college group for the last 3-4 years, so she’s a friend of mine as well. Initially, it started out great. Both loved each other and were happy. Alia was always a social media addicted person. A couple of years back, she decided she wanted to be a social media influencer full-time. My friend supported her in this decision. Right now, she has around 30k+ followers. Now the problem starts

While all this was happening, we all saw the change in the behaviour of my friend and Alia. Earlier, we all had a great time together, but everything's changed now. Now all our outings, dinners, or even get-togethers serve as content for Alia. She would record everything that we did together as friends and post it on her account. It was fine in the beginning, but now it's troubling everyone since she started recording everything and capturing people in their vulnerable states. A friend from our group did tell her not to record their time together since they are uncomfortable, but she hasn't listened to them at all. Instead, she sent a message in our group saying, "Everything that we do is going to be recorded from now on," something like that. To make matters worse, she now tells everyone to behave a certain way, laugh a certain way, or even do certain things for her "CONTENT". Nothing is organic anymore. Since then, everyone has now started staying away from her because you never know, you could be in her next content piece. During all this time, my friend always supported her and asked us to understand her situation. I never raised this issue with him to respect that. But needless to say, we don't meet in groups often now.

Now the problem, he is a very close friend of mine, and we were in the same city recently, hence we met over dinner(Only he and I). He looked very sad and disturbed. After some time, he started opening up and told me that their relationship was going nowhere.

As per him, there isn't anything organic anymore. Everything that is happening in their relationship is for the followers. Every event, every situation is a setup and recorded for her content. He has to fake a lot of things and do a lot of things for her. She has changed alot as well. As soon as the camera is on, she will behave as if she is romanticizing her life and having the best life and post alot of fake things for social media. Once the camera is off, she is a different person. Always fighting, always comparing. One of the worst things is that she is now running out of ideas, and she is doing content or posting pictures that he is not comfortable with at all. Apparently, her reason is that it is the kind of content that gets more attention for her. There were also a couple of incidents of her "soft cheating" with her other influencer friends. Also, it appears she isn't interested in this relationship anymore, but hasn't said that to him directly.

He still wants to stick to her because she was his first, his friends and all his family know about her, and there are even talks about their marriage. I felt that this meeting me was more about getting validation from me. I think he wants to hear from someone else that he should step out of the relationship. He looks completely broken and disturbed. I couldn't suggest something to him because I felt I shouldn't push him for such an extreme step. I did tell him to sit down and talk to her. My mind says he should break up, but I don't want to tell him directly since I don't want to be in the firing line if things don't go well during the breakup.

What do you guys think?

Every time this topic comes up, people say, “If you had to hire a cook, maid, nanny, etc., it would cost ₹20000 a month.”
Okay… but then why stop there?
Does the maid live in a ₹2 crore house?
Does she eat the same food every day?
Does she go on family vacations?
Does she travel in business class if the family does?
Does she benefit from the husband’s promotions, investments, and assets?
Does she have access to the family’s lifestyle after 6 p.m.?
No.
Because she’s an employee.
A wife isn’t supposed to be an employee. She’s supposed to be an equal partner in the family.
If we’re going to insist that housework deserves a monthly salary, then be consistent. Pay her ₹20000, but now she pays 50% of the rent, groceries, vacations, utilities, car expenses, domestic help, and every other household expense from that salary.

Almost nobody advocating the “unpaid labour” argument would agree to that arrangement.
The reality is that most homemakers in functioning marriages aren’t “working for free.” Their compensation isn’t a salary—it’s sharing in the household’s entire standard of living, which for many families is worth far more than any maid’s salary.

Obviously, this isn’t about abusive marriages where one spouse controls all the money or treats the other like a servant. That’s a completely different conversation.
So what exactly am I missing? Why is the maid comparison considered valid when the relationship is fundamentally different?

The choices I’ve made in life have had minor effects on my career and major effects on my mental and social health. I was a fat nerd most of my childhood with some friends, I lost the fat but still was a nerd, college started I didnt really interact with people outside of my social circle and now I realise that Im 19 and im the only guy in my friend group who has never been intimate with anyone. This frustration is genuinely taking a toll on my mental health where I sometimes feel I die alone like this and no one except my parents will even bat an eye

They never compare themselves with the average men and call themselves oppressed despite having so much benefits from diversity hiring to DEI policies to reservations.