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So i am in my early 20s.. Right now my sister is living with us with her kids (2girls 1 boy).. one of her kids is a 10yr old boy. This is about him...

Just a few more background my sister is currently separated from her husband because he turned into an alcoholic, physically and verbally abusive.. and also used to touch his own kids inappropriately...

Now my nephew is a very cute lil boy.. i work from home so he spends most of the time with me...but since they have started living with us.. i have noticed that he usually gets hard down there like its quite visible and it happens almost everyday...so my first question is is it possible for 10yr old kids ... Or does he need any medical help?? He doesn't use mobile so don't have any access to sny inappropriate content

Also he tends to touch my legs.. like its summer and i wear shorts at home.. so he always tends to try touching my legs... I have already asked him multiple times not to do it.. also taught him about good touch and bad touch.. about personal boundaries, consent... Even scolded him few times but he keeps doing it... And whenever he does that i notice that he gets hard down there...

To avoide confusion i m women but used man flair for posting..

And this makes me feel disgusted, worried, weird, confused, embarrassed...

I don't understand about male anatomy.. is he need any medical help or is it happening because of his father inappropriate behaviour??does he need any councilling???

I don't have a bf or any male member to discuss this.. i don't wanna discuss this with any of my male friends.. i

So please help me out in this.. and please don't comment anything bad about me or my nephew.. i m just seeking some genuine help here...so please be kind..

So i am in my early 20s.. Right now my sister is living with us with her kids (2girls 1 boy).. one of her kids is a 10yr old boy. This is about him...

Just a few more background my sister is currently separated from her husband because he turned into an alcoholic, physically and verbally abusive.. and also used to touch his own kids inappropriately...

Now my nephew is a very cute lil boy.. i work from home so he spends most of the time with me...but since they have started living with us.. i have noticed that he usually gets hard down there like its quite visible and it happens almost everyday...so my first question is is it possible for 10yr old kids ... Or does he need any medical help??

Also he tends to touch my legs.. like its summer and i wear shorts at home.. so he always tends to try touching my legs... I have already asked him multiple times not to do it.. also taught him about good touch and bad touch.. about personal boundaries, consent... Even scolded him few times but he keeps doing it... And whenever he does that i notice that he gets hard down there...

And this makes me feel disgusted, worried, weird, confused, embarrassed...

I don't understand about male anatomy.. is he need any medical help or is it happening because of his father inappropriate behaviour??does he need any councilling???

I don't have a bf or any male member to discuss this.. i don't wanna discuss this with any of my male friends.. i

So please help me out in this.. and please don't comment anything bad about me or my nephew.. i m just seeking some genuine help here...so please be kind..

Ok so lil intro about myself i am 24 years old working and studying.. I am kind of a private person. I have some issue with my leg since birth (mentioning this cuz its imp in this context).

Now in 2019 i met a guy online but in the same city... We started talking (there were also times when we didn't talk for months).. but soon after he said he liked me.. but for me it was just an online conversation nothing more than that which i was sure will end one day but somehow it didn't.. I also firmly told him in the beginning of the conversation that i am not interested in dating nor i will ever meet him cuz honestly i don't believe in the online stuffs..... he said neither he has any such intentions... But yeah one more thing he didn't know about the issue in my leg.. it never really crossed my mind to tell him.. i may also not have told him because i don't really talk about my any issue with anyone even with my own family until and unless i am specifically asked about it...

But last year he confessed that he loves me and now can't pretend to be just friends and want a relationship.. i declined because in around the same time i lost my mother and i was not in a condition for any emotional connection also i had an important exam hence i didn't wanted to be distracted... But he never really gave up on me... We had lots of fights.. we have gone no contacts for months but he always comes back and also make sure to make me feel loved and cared... He is a really sweet guy.. but I have been too focused on other stuff to consider a relationship...

But now the situation is.. I feel i also have started liking him or u can say loving him... Sometimes now I feel that i want to date him.. but now the issue is he doesn't know about my issue in my leg. I never thought that an online connection would survive this long hence it never crossed my mind to let him know nor i ever thought I would think about a relationship with him .. but here we are...

Now I don't know what to do.. like obviously I can't have a relationship with him without letting him know... But if i tell him , won't he think that i cheated on him all this year!!! (but i swear it was never my intention).. but even if he is ok with it.. I don't want him to have a compromised future in any way because of me.. He is a really sweet boy and he deserves all the happiness and love...

Right now we are not talking because of a fight...

So i don't know what I should do!!? Should i tell him? If yes how??? or Should i just let it be and let this bond die???

Reddittors are requested to please be kind and offer some genuine advice/perspective...