u/kichusan

What I meant is that male loneliness also affects how much men share with each other.

Women generally talk a lot with their friends about their experiences, dating, emotions, relationships etc. So whatever one person learns gets passed around and other women add their own experiences to it.

Men also learn a lot from women, obviously, but many men don't have the same kind of close network where they constantly share these things with other men.

So one guy can figure out something on his own that 10 other guys could have benefited from knowing, but they never hear about it.

That's the repercussion I was talking about.

Pata hai aaj kya hua?

Lent ₹1.5k to a childhood friend around a month ago.

We aren't best friends or anything, but we grew up together, played cricket almost every day. He texted saying he was alone in Jaipur for his master's, his bank account had some issue and he urgently needed some cash.

I didn't even think twice, just sent it.

Since then... he's disappeared. I've texted him a few times (screenshot).

Honestly, I couldn't care less about the ₹1.5k. If he had just said, "Bhai, I'm broke right now, I'll return it later," I'd have been completely fine with it.

What bothers me is how people are willing to ruin years of goodwill over such a small amount. Just communicate yaar.

Anyone else been in a similar situation?

Pata hai aaj kya hua?

A friend texted me saying she was about to get her periods. I wanted to be supportive, so I replied, "I understand how it feels."

She asked, "How do YOU understand?"

Since we joke around a lot, I said, "Sperm cramps."

Her reply?

"Sperm cramps aate hai toh hila lo."

That single message made me realize how casually men's struggles are dismissed. Imagine replying to period cramps with, "Bas pad laga lo." Suddenly it's insensitive. But telling a man "toh hila lo" is somehow completely acceptable.

Naturally, I spent the next few minutes educating her about the silent epidemic of sperm cramps and the monthly suffering endured by millions of men worldwide. By the end of my completely scientific presentation, she had developed a newfound respect for men and our sacrifices.

It's time we break the stigma. Normalize conversations around sperm cramps. The boys deserve hot water bags, chocolates, and emotional support too.

Stay strong, kings. 🗣️

Edit : I also suffer from yearning, yearning to find true love, nvm you all

Yesterday I crossed 50 lakhs in savings.

Never thought I'd type that sentence at 23. I worked remotely after college, lived way below my means and invested almost everything I earned. Looking back, the last 5-6 years have just been study, work, save money and repeat.

In the evening I took my bike to Marine Drive and just sat there for a while. I think I was trying to let it sink in that this was actually real.

The funny thing is, I always thought once I reached some financial milestone, life would somehow become clearer. It didn't.

If anything, I'm more confused now than I was a year ago.

I'll be 24 this August. I graduated in mechanical engineering but never really enjoyed it. I moved into software because it simply paid much better. My current contract pays well, but there's a chance it might end in the next couple of months because the company isn't doing great. I'm honestly not scared about finding another job. I'll probably manage somehow.

What scares me is that I still don't know what I actually want to do for the next 35-40 years.

Programming is okay. I don't hate it, but I don't wake up excited to do it either. The only thing that genuinely excites me is building products. I recently launched one in the consumer social space. I know it might never make money and that's okay, but I enjoy working on it way more than my day job.

Some of my friends have already completed their masters in the US and Europe. Their lives just seem... sorted. They have a clear path ahead. Good career, growth, maybe they'll settle there.

And then there's me.

Every few months I question everything. Should I continue in software? Should I go all in on entrepreneurship? Am I wasting my potential? Or am I just expecting too much from myself because I'm only 23?

I honestly don't know..

The thing is, life doesn't stop while you're trying to figure yourself out. I still have to keep earning, keep saving and keep building a future. Then in another 3-4 years there'll probably be the usual "when will you marry?" questions. I haven't even found someone yet. Sometimes it feels like everything is happening at once. Career, money, relationships, trying to find purpose... it all feels like chaos.

On the brighter side, I'm definitely in a much better place than I was a couple of years ago. I've started going out more, joined trekking groups, started learning swimming and I'm trying to undo years of living like a complete introvert.

I don't know if everyone in their twenties feels like this or if I'm just overthinking everything. Financially, I feel secure for the first time in my life. Mentally, though, it still feels like I'm standing at a crossroads with no idea which road to take.

Yesterday I crossed 50 lakhs in savings. Never thought I'd type that sentence at 23. I worked remotelyv(work from home) after college, lived way below my means and invested almost everything I earned. Looking back, the last 5-6 years have just been study, work, save money and repeat.

In the evening I just went to Marine drive (mumbai) and just sat there for a while. I think I was trying to let it sink in that this was actually real.

The funny thing is, I always thought once I reached some financial milestone, life would somehow become clearer. It didn't.

If anything, I'm more confused now than I was a year ago.

I'll be 24 this August. I graduated in mechanical engineering but never really enjoyed it. I moved into software because it simply paid much better. My current contract pays well, but there's a chance it might end in the next couple of months because the company isn't doing great. I'm honestly not scared about finding another job. I'll probably manage somehow.

What scares me is that I still don't know what I actually want to do for the next 35-40 years.

Programming is okay. I don't hate it, but I don't wake up excited to do it either. The only thing that genuinely excites me is building products. I recently launched one in the consumer social space. I know it might never make money and that's okay, but I enjoy working on it way more than my day job.

Some of my friends have already completed their masters in the US and Europe. Their lives just seem... sorted. They have a clear path ahead. Good career, growth, maybe they'll settle there.

And then there's me.

Every few months I question everything. Should I continue in software? Should I go all in on entrepreneurship? Am I wasting my potential? Or am I just expecting too much from myself because I'm only 23?

I honestly don't know.

The thing is, life doesn't stop while you're trying to figure yourself out. I still have to keep earning, keep saving and keep building a future. Then in another 3-4 years there'll probably be the usual "shaadi kab karoge?" questions. I haven't even found someone yet. Sometimes it feels like everything is happening at once. Career, money, relationships, trying to find purpose... it all feels like chaos.

On the brighter side, I'm definitely in a much better place than I was a couple of years ago. I've started going out more, joined trekking groups, started learning swimming and I'm trying to undo years of living like a complete introvert.

I don't know if everyone in their twenties feels like this or if I'm just overthinking everything. Financially, I feel secure for the first time in my life. Mentally, though, it still feels like I'm standing at a crossroads with no idea which road to take.

Edit : I graduated as a mechanical engineer at 21, but didn't take the offer that I got from L&T, I rather took an internship in a bangalore based startup and then got a job there, did for 6 months, resigned later due to toxicity, built my own side project, made 12 lakhs from it, did freelancing for 3 months and later on got this contract job from an Australian startup. Been there since the last one year working as a Full stack developer. It pays me $3k/mo.

Hey everyone, just happy to share that I crossed 50L network this July. I am 23 but will soon turn 24 in a few weeks.

I know there are people doing much better than me and there are people who haven't even started earning yet.

I have waited long enough to post this here, what you see on social media is almost always the partial truth.

Even though I have crossed this amount, i must share that I still live in a chawl in Mumbai. I have worked hard enough to get to this point but this isn't enough yet. I don't come from a privileged background and the journey is still very long. I lost my dad when I was just 12, life has been hard.

At one point my mom spent half her savings just so she could buy me a decent windows laptop. It was my duty to make the most of it. I am honestly very proud of what I have done till now but not satisfied. I feel like I have a lot more potential.

I currently have a temporary contract job that pays me well but it will end anytime soon. For context i work as a full stack developer.

I have very high ambitions, I hope to accomplish everything that I aim to. Wish me luck. I will be back here on my 1cr achievement in the next few years.

Don't compare with anyone guys. Destiny plays a role, discipline plays a role. Life can change in just a matter of months. Keep going everyone.

Edit : I graduated as a mechanical engineer at 21, but didn't take the offer that I got from L&T, I rather took an internship in a bangalore based startup and then got a job there, did for 6 months, resigned later due to toxicity, built my own side project, made 12 lakhs from it, did freelancing for 3 months and later on got this contract job from an Australian startup. Been there since the last one year. It pays me $3k/mo

I went to a trek with random redditors, it started with a comment of mine and then someone reacheed out to me for forming a group, others joined and then we 9 (all guys) went on a trek. We all are from Mumbai and went to a trek nearby.

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It was so fun and a lot lot better than the paid ones that we all come across on Instagram/ BookMyShow

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I honestly have realised that I just need to go out more and it doesn't matter if I have friends or not, I will make newer ones, life doesn't stop for anyone, my 20s will never come back so why not enjoy it in every possible way, all experiences are worth it

Pata hai aaj kya hua ? I went to a trek with random redditors, it started with a comment of mine and then someone reacheed out to me for forming a group, others joined and then we 9 (all guys) went on a trek. We all are from Mumbai and went to a trek nearby.

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It was so fun and a lot lot better than the paid ones that we all come across on Instagram/ BookMyShow

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I have honestly realised that I just need to go out more and it doesn't matter if I have friends or not, I will make newer ones, life doesn't stop for anyone, my 20s will never come back so why not enjoy it in every possible way, all experiences are worth it

It's been 2 weeks since I started learning to swim and now this, they have closed all swimming pools due to water shortage.

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I was trying to excel in one hobby and find someone but nvm, I hope we soon get blessed by indradev.