This woman is my neighbour in her early 30s. I'm approaching mid 40s.
I dont think she dates regularly and seems like a homebody who don't hang at bars and nightclubs but instead with family and friends and dog-sitting. In the two years she's lived here I've never seen here with a boy or girl who might be a partner or anyone staying over other than her mum. I guess I could be wrong though. Even when she goes out she doesnt seem to stay out too late, stay over elsewhere or bring partners back with her at night.
I dont see her often but when I do we kind of have this slightly nervous energy when we chat and she kinda giggles or trails off at the end of sentences.
She has complimented my guitar playing as 'beautiful' when she first moved in 2 years ago. And said 'so you're a mechanic too?' when I helped start her one time.
Last year, she randomly turned up at a pub on my birthday with her dad when I was there and ended up sitting next to me (she rarely if ever goes to pubs) She wouldn't know it was my bday that day. We are not friends on social media but my username on Instagram has my birthday in it. She appears on my suggested friends list. I have given her Christmas cards the last two years, with one year I gave her a small chocolate thing but she didn't mention them.
One day I had to speak to the woman in the property directly next to her, a woman in her mid 30s who is also single. I was at the woman's door and I heard my crush's door open but she did not leave immediately, as if she was waiting for me to go. I can't tell if she was awkward because she didn't expect to see me or if it's because she thought I was involved with the woman In the flat next to her. About 5 minutes later I saw her outside talking to a neighbour but she was looking up to where I was the whole time.
One morning she knocked her car into another car when reversing out a space and kinda looked over at me as I was sitting in my car. She pulled a kinda joke shocked face and with a smile looked at me and said "I'm not having a good week with cars". I said back 'it can only get better!' and she smiles back at me.
Then she got in her car and as she drove away she waved at me and smiled. I waved and gave her a thumbs-up from her car and she gave me a thumbs-up back, like mirrored my action.
I got another wave as I drove by and she was putting her seat belt on. Some mornings her times change- she either leaves a few seconds before me or can be late. I wonder if we try to time when we leave to try bump into one another.
One morning she was out walking her mum's dog at the same time I leave for work. She told me she was dog-sitting for her mum and was off work all week. She was dressed in her Pyjamas but wrapped up warm in a housecoat and hat. When she was about to leave I shouted her name and she turned back quickly to look at me and I paused, then asked how her cat was (he had sadly passed).
I've noticed she's started carrying a backpack to grocery shop like I do.
I have a projector lamp in my spare room which i project onto my window so people outside can see it. I notice she now has a light which projects something similar im her bedroom ceiling.
It can be hard to bump into her. Sometimes she leaves earlier or later for work. Sometimes it's like she is in her own world and won't see me when driving by her. But she waved at me on another day. 2 weeks ago she waved at me twice when she was heading to work and I was on the pathway towards my car. Then last Thursday she gave the most warm and bright smile and wave from her car as she left for work.
She was scraping her car a few Fridays ago and I wanted to approach but didn't out of shyness or not sure if she would want me too. But I feel like her warm smiling and double waves is like an invitation?
She showed up to a tenants meeting this week. She came in after me and we didn't say hi or look at one another. But when we had to sit down at the meeting, she sat down and I sat down next to her, and we didn't really talk or look at each other during the meeting because obviously everyone was talking. I noticed she was left-handed and I'm also left-handed. At the end of the meeting, she got up to leave and I was behind her and then I kind of caught her up and I was like, "hey, you're left-handed, and she's like, yeah, and I was like "I am too." And she was like aw no way cool.
There was another girl who kinda interrupted with a questiin for her and we all kind of talked on the way home. The other girls was kind of walking on the road because there wasn't enough space, so I kind of stepped back so the two girls could walk together. But I feel like she kind of slowed down to walk with me. And then kind of on the way home, I walked close to her. I kind of pretended to stumble a tiny bit into her and apologised and she was like "no, it's ok." We walked kind of close together and the other girl was on the far left.
I think she is generally a shy person. She never answers or responds in the tenants email chain. Maybe introverted unless she's comfortable with people?
I saw her again the following morning. She waved so I went over and said hey and asked her why she didn't have her glasses on. She told me she only wears them at night cos she gets headaches at and might need glasses full-time later on.
I told her I wear contact lenses cos im 'blind' and she was like 'blind?' in a jokey way. But I was like i just mean my eyesight sucks and she was like 'ah ok.' Then I told her her glasses suited her and she said 'thank you' with a really pleased smile and I said to her to have a nice day and got into my icy car so didn't see her drive off.
Do you think she fancies me?