Understanding others that deal with me
Ever since finding out about having sdam and aphantasia, one of my main focuses was how to undestand others better regarding how they deal with me. I have always been very caring and careful with words and being honest in actions towards people. But in multiple situations, Ive seem to have left people that I valued. People that had a good thing going with me, regardless what sort of relations we had, are just left with the feeling that the importance I created was just plain words that i dont follow up on. Obviously there are plenty of reasons for something going wrong between people but im speaking about cases with no actual reason. And then with absence for a while comes the feeling of detachment. I know someone was important, that we had a good thing going but im not recalling any feeling, few to no memories and mainly guilt that I got myself in this position by not actively trying to keep the contact alive in the present.
I alway assumed, which partly is like this i guess, that its normal that people go through periods of dealing with their life in good or bad ways, and never felt like judging anyone that is absent from my life nor allowing the absence to change whatever we have going. But now clearly understanding that its my way of functioning and im judging this based on my own apporach, I was wondering if there are main points im missing out when trying to put myself in this other persons shoes?