“You’re using your baby as a pawn”
RANT
Longggg story short my in laws are the most toxic, chaotic, and abusive people I have ever met. My husband had a really bad childhood growing up, probably one of the worst childhoods I’ve ever heard of. When he became an adult he moved hours away from his abusive parents and enabling siblings and he is very very low contact with them.
We have a newborn, since the day we found out we were pregnant to now my husband has been very clear that his family will have little access to our pregnancy and our son. They weren’t involved in my pregnancy at all, they were super critical and showed no support (which in this case good) however towards the end they started to become overbearing. My husband set up very clear and strict boundaries with them…
They all lost their shit over it, and I mean BAD. Their way of hashing out problems is cussing each other out, calling each other names, and getting physical. Their reaction was super intense and my husband ultimately decided to pull the plug altogether and not let them have any access to our son.
For the past month his family has been harassing the both of us saying we’re evil for using our baby “as a pawn”, you mean the baby that WE made? The baby that we’re protecting from this abusive behavior?? The blame of course has been totally shifted on to me because they don’t believe my husband would just “exclude them from our lives” like that… so of course it’s my fault and I’m evil and toxic and apparently like drama.
It’s bullshit, but they’re proving EXACTLY why they aren’t allowed around our baby.