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Today my husband and I told my in-laws about our plan of moving to my hometown so I could work and have childcare. We have an 8 month old son and I’m a registered nurse and haven’t been able go back to work due to not having any child care for my son. My mother in law is retired and healthy and is free all day and refuses to even care for my son for 1 hour and says that “she’s too old to change diapers” My husband and I don’t want to put our son in daycare and would prefer a trusted family member. So we decided to move to my hometown which is 4 hours away from my in-laws so that I can work full time and my mom can watch my son while I work. When we told my mil she ran to her room and slammed the door. Then she started crying hysterically and screaming. My husband tried to go talk to her but she started to throw and break things. My husband and I decided to go home and allow her to cool off. In which pissed her off even more and she threatened to poison herself… my husband had to go back and hold her and talk to her like she’s a child…I’m honestly so disturbed by her reaction. I have no words. She’s a 65 year old adult and she’s acting like she’s 10…

How to overcome highway anxiety? I’m 24 years old and have been driving since I was 18. I’m okay with driving on main road but am terrified of the high way and only have been on it during training lessons and road test back when I was a teenager. Just thinking about it makes me want to have an anxiety attack. How do I overcome this fear? Please help

I’m a 24F and have been binge eating and throwing up my food on and off since 2020. Recently it’s gotten so bad to the point where I’m doing it several times a day. I feel more ashamed now because I’m married and have an 8 month old son and am still doing this crap. It’s ridiculous and I’m ashamed of myself. Only way I don’t do it is if someone is home with me like my husband but the last few days he’s been really busy and it’s been an endless spiral. I need to get help but I’m scared I’ll be judged. I need to stop and I’m wondering what are some things I can start doing to stop this behavior instead of getting medical help.

Need quick replies please! My husband and in-laws are planning to go to six flags in a few hours and are begging me and my 8 month old to go. I keep saying no because it’s 86 degrees outside. My son gets fussy when he’s outside for too long and he’s a baby who gets bored quick and needs places to let out his energy. Should I go? Or is it better for me to stay home in the ac and know my baby will be happy haha. Also I’m hesitant to go because my in-laws don’t help with baby so I know I’ll be on my own.

Update: thank you everyone I’ll be staying home!

I keep seeing infant loss post online due to cosleeping and it’s starting to give me anxiety and make me feel guilty for cosleeping with my son. My son is 8 months old and I’ve been cosleeping with him since he was 4 months due to him being an awful sleeper and needing to get sleep for survival. The last few nights I had trouble sleeping because all of the thoughts of cosleeping accidents and suffocation is circulating in my head. I love cosleeping with my son I love being his safe place and knowing he’s right beside me. But now I just feel like I’m a bad mom for not following safe sleep guidelines.

I’m an Arab Muslim 24F and my husband is 29M we’ve been married for 4 years and have an 8 month old son. Our son is a high needs Velcro baby and every day is very difficult with him. My family live in a different state and my in-laws don’t help at all. So the only support I have is my husband. My husband helps me out at night and helps here and there but every day after work he goes out and doesn’t come back until 10-11pm. He goes to the gym, sits by his parents house and spends time with his friends. I agree that he deserves to have time for himself since he does work remotely and he needs fresh air but on a daily basis and when he knows I’m drowning at home with the baby and chores really upsets me. When I tell him how I feel he says he doesn’t like being at home all day and then yells at me saying I’m nagging him and that “I signed up for this as a mom”. Sometimes he’ll come to his senses and helps me out more with the baby then he goes back to his old way. Not to mention he makes 45k salary and has a lot of credit card debt. He promised me that we can to where my family lives so that my mom can watch our son while I work to help us out financially, I have my masters in nursing. Yet he changed his mind and says he doesn’t want to be away from his family. Whenever I tell him instead of going out for hours he should get a second job he gets defensive and says that I’m complaining. I don’t know what to do. I love my husband and he is good to me and always has been and but since we had our son it’s been very challenging. He’s started to snap at me more and doesn’t seem to care about my mental health. I get no break I’m with my son 24/7 and whenever my husband watches him while I go to an appointment or something he makes me feel bad and times me. I’m reaching a breaking point and feel very depressed I’ve been praying and making dua but I feel so helpless sometimes. My mom says if my husband isn’t willing to help that I should go home and have my family help me. I know if I ask my husband he will be angry. What should I do?

I’ve been on trizepatide 2.5mg for 6 weeks and I’ve lost 14lbs! Starting weight was 202lbs and now I’m 188lbs. I know it’s mostly water weight and inflammation. But GLP-1s are life changing wow! I used to eat like SHIT I was always bloated and had absolutely no self control. I’ve been able to stay on a calorie deficit and actually enjoy cooking healthy meals now. I’m so happy to finally have control over my eating habits. I’m 8 months postpartum and I have been trying so hard to lose weight but just couldn’t stop eating so unhealthy! I’m thankful and look forward to continuing my health journey.

Just a little vent. I’m sick and tired of my husband and his financial choices. Since we got married my husband has always been in debt ranging from 10k-30k. He has a computer science degree and has had a hard time finding a decent salary job due to us living in the shit state of Illinois where the job market is shit and over saturated. He makes around 45k a year. I’m a registered nurse and am a stay at home mom for right now. I’ve paid off the credit card numerous times and yet he still finds a way to fill it back up. I told him while I was pregnant to get his shit together before we have our baby and he did get his credit card down to 5k because he was working 2 jobs. Now he’s back to buying cars and trying to sell when really he’s just bored and wants to act like he’s making money when he’s just losing money. He spends hours and hours and hours on these ridiculous cars that all take premium gas. And guess where all these purchases are on? The damn credit card. I’m 7 month postpartum and the credit card is back up to 15k and I’m LIVID. I work really hard to keep us in a tight budget and keep things affordable and he goes and swipes and swipes and swipes. Not to mention the amount of hours of work I had to do to pay it off before!!! And guess who has to pay it off? ME because I make more money. He goes and pays things for his family when he needs to focus on his OWN family! He says yes to trips and vacations when he knows we don’t have the budget for it. I told my husband let’s move to my hometown because we will have free child care from my parents cost of living is cheaper and I can go back to work and help with the debt for the final time and then cutting all the cards and be done with credit cards. And we don’t have to use credit cards when our combined income will keep us comfortable. What does he say? No I don’t want to be away from my parents. I love my husband and he’s amazing in every other area expect finances. It makes me so unbelievably mad.

What are some low cal ground beef recipes? Have some ground beef I need to use but don’t know what to make with it.

Why are people expecting such high tips? I feel pressured to tips for my nails, hair, eyebrows even though the service cost is so expensive as is!! I got my hair done last week and it was $250 I left a $20 tip cash and she didn’t seem very happy with it.. am I expected to tip even more?? I got a pedicure yesterday for $50 and left a $5 tip cash and again didn’t seem happy with it. Am I being cheap with my tips or reasonable? I promise I’m not a Karen!

I have a 7.5 month old baby who hates going out. Every time I attempt to take him anywhere he screams in the car. I try to baby wearing him when I go out and after 20 minutes he gets annoyed and wants to be let out and then wants me to hold him again. And then he gets frustrated and starts screaming bloody murder. So really wherever I go I’m fighting for my life. Last week we took him to the lake the weather was beautiful and not hot yet he was pissed the whole time. He’s only happy when he’s at home with his toys. My in-laws are planning a week trip to Tennessee next month and I told my husband I’m not going because I know our son will just be upset the whole time. My husband says that we can’t keep staying at home and avoiding trips because we have a baby. But in my eyes this won’t be a trip and this won’t be a vacation. It’s a 10 hour drive which equals 10 hours of my son screaming in the car seat. It means early wake ups and I barely get sleep as it is so I’m just going to be even more sleep deprived. Hot weather, disrupted nap schedule and a fussy and upset baby. And not to mention my in-laws don’t help one bit! They see me struggling with my son and no one offers to help. Am I in the wrong for not wanting to go?

When I was pregnant they found I had protein in my urine they ruled out preeclampsia and sent me to a nephrologist. She said she will follow up with me postpartum. 2 months postpartum still have protein in my urine and ANA is positive, 1:80 nuclear speckled everything else is negative. Doctor said she’ll follow up with me in 6 months. 6 months later still have protein in my urine and still ANA is positive. I’m 24 years old, normal
Blood pressure and normal a1c, no past medical history or family history of kidney disease. She said she’s not worried and will follow up in another 6 months. I genuinely feel like something is wrong and the nephrologist just doesn’t seem to care. Having chronic protein in urine can’t be good can it? Having Ana keep coming back positive has to be something? I’m always fatigued my urine is always foamy and I always feel so inflamed and bloated. Should I keep advocating or trust it’s probably nothing?

My 7 month old is just so fussy all day! I mean just so fussy. When he wakes up he’s really happy and plays for maybe 20 minutes and then bam kicks in. I try to keep him happy by playing with him walking with him giving him teething toys. He crawls and sits and whenever he crawls he tries to get into the TV stand or tries to get himself hurt. He has the whole entire living room to crawl and a play pen but nope his mission is to do everything unsafe so my entire day is following him everywhere trying to stop him from hurting himself. He gets angry when he sees my phone or remote because he will whine trying to get it. When I take him away from something that can hurt him he will scream and get upset. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I try taking him out he will scream hysterically the second he gets into the car. He hates going out only wants to be held. He’s showing teething signs could that be why he’s so fussy all day? Anyone know what I can do? I hate seeing him so unhappy all day.

Today’s 3rd place World Cup match was amazing!!! Wow I’m a new football watcher my husband finally convinced me to get into it and I’m obsessed! Didn’t realize watching football could be so fun and exciting. Which teams should I follow? There’s so many I can’t decide. My husband is a hardcore Barcelona fan and wants me to become a fan just like him haha.

My whole life I had a horrible relationship with food. I would lose weight by water fasting and then gain it all back by binge eating. I’ve been on keto, OMAD, calorie deficit, weight watchers you name it. Being on a GLP-1 has healed my relationship with food. I see food as fuel not a reward and not a coping mechanism. I don’t look at food and think how many calories will I need to run to get rid of this. No I see it as is this food is going to fuel me and provide me with nutrition. I would have food noise all day!! It’s gone and I feel free. I don’t obsessively weigh myself. I don’t look at myself in the mirror with disgust I’m not bloated and inflamed every day. I’m beyond amazed of what this miracle medication has done for me and my mental health. I’m so happy that GLP-1 medication is now more accessible because so many people see it as a cheat or an easy way to lose weight when really it’s an opportunity for people who’ve battled with obesity to take charge of their health.