u/Kindly-Attention-598

I have a very small gig coming up in a bookstore. I was going to play with a keyboard player I’ve worked with in the past and performs often, so he has the right equipment. But he let me know he can’t do it anymore so last minute I had to find someone else to join me on stage. I decided to go with an old colleague of mine, who’s a trained pianist but doesn’t have the right equipment. So I decided to just use my Yamaha P-145B since it’s a small venue and I don’t think we’ll need an amp. But I don’t know if that’s actually a right choice & maybe I should find a way to borrow a keyboard?

Hello, I am an independent bedroom artist. I released my first EP two months ago and I still have a couple of gigs coming up focused around the EP. I do make a lot of songs because I work on music almost everyday and there are a couple of songs I didn’t put on the EP, but that I do perform and I’m wanting to release (highly favoured by the audience). Since they are in the same theme as my EP, I still want to release them this year. But when is the right time to start releasing new songs again?

So just to keep it short. Sometimes there are queer events going on and my gf prefers me not to join her because she wants to go with her best friend. And I understand she wants to spend time with her friend without her gf being there but these are public events I went to even before I met her and knew her. I am more part of the local community than she is. I go to a lot of the queer events. We even met each other at one of these events. And now she kinda prohibits me from going to a place I always went to, to not make her friend feel some type of way? I get it if it’s just the two of them, or they are hanging out inside of the house. It would be weird if I was there.

But last time it was a concert, this venue always has these events to shine light on local POC, black, queer artists. I am an artist myself so I’ve performed there, I rehearse there, I did a boodcamp there. I am also close with the organiser (since I’ve been there so often). And for this specific concert, I actually knew two of the artists because we have worked/ performed together. She told me she rather not have me there. I tried to understand it at that time. But tomorrow there is a picnic for sapphic people, she’s going with her friend and because of that, I can’t join. It’s very warm outside, I don’t have anything to do. I’ll just be in the house. I’ve told my gf we should attend events as a couple more often so we can meet other queer couples, so this could have been a great opportunity. But she doesn’t want me there.

And I get it to an extent, her friend said something like when she hangs out with her friend (my gf) she doesn’t want her to be calling me. It literally only happened 1 time, we are very aware of what we’re doing and we don’t want to make our friends feel like they are second choices. But she called me just that one time and it was a group conversation because we were gossiping about someone we all knew. Plus I knew her friend waaaaaay before I knew my girlfriend. (Because we would see each other at these events, my gf is a homebody so I didn’t see her that often before). So it’s not that we’re strangers.

Like we all want to go to the same events because we’re queer & black. There aren’t that many events like that in my city and now I am not even allowed to go a lot of them. And it’s not like I would be around them, I used to go by myself before as well or bring a friend. But she thinks it’s weird. Idk, I’ve been feeling some type of way about it but idk if it’s valid.

EDIT: My gf does not ‘not want me there’ she doesn’t want to make her friend feel some type of way because they already had an argument about that. And this was the second argument ‘about me’ (I didn’t do anything wrong, I think it’s just adaption for her friend because I am my gfs first relationship.) so now my gf is extra careful cause this is her bestfriend of 7 years.

This might be a stupid question because it seems pretty forward but I’m just confused because I didn’t apply my song for the radio. On spotify artist and apple music for artists, I can see some songs of my latest EP have 3-5 radio spins. I didn’t send my songs for radio play and my EP went live 2 weeks after uploading it through distrokid. So I couldn’t have made it for some kind of playlisting, so now I’m wondering why my songs have radio spins and if I’m actually understanding it correctly.

There is this strage guy talking to himself in my gf’s dm. He keeps saying how he loves her and wants her, comments on every story when she posts herself. My girlfriend sometimes posts pictures of her body. And he always reacts. I wouldn’t have known but she already mentioned a couple of times how she thinks it’s weird and annoying, but laughs with it. And I’m like, just block him? I’m not insecure about him at all. But it’s very creepy and gives a bit stalker vibes. He probably has a bunch of screenshots of her on his phone. He also knows that my gf is gay, so it’s like you know? And you keep bothering her. I don’t know why she thinks it’s funny. I’m paranoid so I always immediately block those kind of interactions. Like why do I want a guy I think is annoying to still have access to me? I don’t know.

Hello, I’ve just released my first EP, all streaming platforms, in april. Previously I released songs on soundcloud only, every month or every other month because I was learning how to produce and make songs. This was a way of showcasing my growth and being comfortable with showing people my stuff.

I am planning for the year and there are a bunch of songs that didn’t make it to the EP which I still want to release and then other songs I started working on. But I don’t know when it’s too soon to release another project. I am just getting started and don’t have a fanbase, so I want to hold people’s attention. But I also don’t want to feel like I didn’t give my project enough attention. I post about my EP almost everyday still and it’s been a month. But I also feel like I want to share my other songs to keep people’s attention. I was thinking of starting releasing new things or at least promoting them again in july and then releasing every other two weeks for 2-3 songs, because the songs are ready. I don’t think the 6weeks thing works well for small artists like me (for reference, I have 226 monthly listeners). But what do you think about it? Has it worked for you?

Tw: Long rant. I am being called biphobic for some stuff I said, which I personally don’t think is.

I am 26 but I was 24 at the time & we’re all around the same age. I was at a party, had been drinking with some girls and they are pan/bi. They were talking about their sexuality in front of me and said things like ‘I don’t understand choosing, everyone is fine af.’, ‘I don’t think people can be a 100% of anything, everyone is at least a bit bisexual.’, ‘Yeah men are shit, but there can always be that one great guy out there.’ ‘Men are trash, I am going to start dating women now.’

I didn’t say anything during their whole rant, at the end I just got tired of hearing what they were saying especially since I was there with one of the girls. Not yet in a romantic way, but the possibility was there since we had hung out and went on a date prior to this. To defend my sexuality (cause they said no one can be a 100% of anything) I said ‘well I am a goldstar lesbian, I didn’t have to try dating men to know that I was. So that’s proof someone can be a 100% of something.’ And they took it as if I was attacking their sexuality saying ‘well some people don’t have the freedom to just date women’ and took that as if I was looking down on them when I never mentioned them I was talking about MYSELF. I never talked about other people and their journey because I KNOW. A lot of people grow up in situations where they can’t be themselves or have the freedom to figure things out. People who only realise or accept later in life they are queer. I was talking about me. And I understand people don’t like to hear the word ‘goldstar’, it’s actually not part of my vocabulary and I guess I was just drunk and frustrated. So I acknowledge my wrong doing there. But focusing on that part, making it into something that it wasn’t and forgetting all the other stuff they said, really baffled me.

Two years later, I started seeing my gf. (Also pan) One of the girls knows my gf (not the one I had previously gone on a date with) and my gf said she warned her about me being biphobic. Based on that conversation. Mind you, I don’t know this person. I only seen her at queer events from now and then. My gf bestfriend is also part of that friendship group and she warned my gf as well for being biphobic. Because I had said in the past that I don’t date girls who have only been with men, I don’t want to be the first girl experience anymore at this age. I also said that I didn’t like women being (proudly) out as bisexual but then say they would never date a girl only sleep with women. (I am talking about for example the Paris girl on tiktok, she also said things like why she would date a masc or stud if she can just date men) I never said these people weren’t bisexual, I just said it’s something that I don’t like hearing nor understood. It comes across as if you don’t value connections with women and just see them as a sexual object. And there was a time I used to say these things as well, I was dealing with comphet. I don’t fault them for that, but I just said ‘I don’t like hearing it, and it comes across as this’ And I am allowed to have a feeling towards that. Whiles also understanding them in the sence that they might be dealing with comphet or other things like religious guilt. But just because you are dealing with these things, doesn’t exclude you from doing and saying harmful things. Two things can be true at the same time.

I am allowed to have an opinion and I think I am allowed to have preferences, I never excluded anyone from my dating pool. And even if I was les4les, I don’t think that makes a person biphobic.

I understand hearing some things isn’t nice and it might feel as an attack on you. But I think the word ‘biphobia’ is being thrown around too loosely. I never denied someone’s sexuality. Calling out harmful behaviour or things people say isn’t biphobia either. I personally feel like throwing that word around so quickly when someone just says their preference or calls out things, says more about how you feel about yourself and your sexuality, than about the other person.

I would like to believe I’m secure in myself and what I’m doing but honestly, sometimes I can’t help but to feel jealous of other artists. And I don’t want to because it’s not a nice feeling and it makes me feel small.

It probably stems from childhood, constantly being compared to other people and my sister growing up. And now I’m doing it myself. To the point I can’t listen to music or newer artists when I’m in the middle of working on a project because I am not able to do the things they do yet. When I listen to other music while I’m creating, I want to start over again and create something similar to their music. Even though I want to create a sound that’s unique to me. It’s not always easy.

But it’s more so locally. My community are all musicians and we’re all trying to support each other. I show up to their concerts, I listen to their music, I let them know I’ve listened to their projects (and when they ask I give my honest opinion). But I don’t feel like that’s extended to me. They don’t show up to my performances, I have never seen them share my music and no one has congratulated me on my new project. And then I would see them show up for each other. So now I’m in my head and maybe they really just don’t like my music, which is okay. Not everyone likes what you do, but that doesn’t take away from the fact it makes me feel some type of way.

Hello I’m very confused about something. I released the first single of my EP in December of 2025, I still don’t have my URI for that release yet. I do have an artist page and I’ve had it from the moment my song went live but everytime I go to the looker-up tool it says to come back tomorrow. But it’s been months. Did I do something wrong? I’ve tried to contact distrokid but the robot doesn’t know what I’m talking about. It keeps giving me answers to questions I didn’t ask.