u/Kindly_Rate4854

Broke up with my boyfriend (ex now) on the 26th and "officially" (lol) yesterday.

It feels really bad to know someone who's known me for over a year could do something like this to me, be so selfish, he lied to me and didn't even wanna make things better to get my trust back. I'm so sad, I just wish I could forgive him and everything could go back. But the thought that he would admit to lying to me on the week I had a super big argument, lie to me again and also get angry cuz I dont wanna stop being homeschooled and I dont wanna go to a "real" school even tho he knows about all my past and all my physical symptoms and then tells me i'm not resilient enough for someone who went thru all of that feels sh*t

I just don't know why anyone would do that to me, maybe he was angry and wanted to break up but couldn't do it himself so he did everything for it to happen. I don't know, usually I guess people's motives and it helps me because I have an answer, but here I don't and it's frustrating me

i wish everything could go back to what it was, really, I wish I could relive one moment where I didn't know he would do this to me, now he knows he made me sad and lied to me yet tells me it's my fault because he lied since I can't always be told the truth or else I get sad and that's true but bro, hide harsh critique, not something that's almost a deal breaker for me

he let me get attached for 11 more months and admitted to his lie, why couldn't he say the truth before?

i'm so sad really, so sad

Hi guys, I'm looking for friends any gender, any age, i'm almost 16. I am not a weird person, just not the best at socializing at first, i've just broken up with my partner that I had for a year, since I am homeschooled they were pretty much the epitome of my life during that year, so now them being gone makes me realize how much I need friends.

I am into lots of things, I enjoy documentaries, chess, games, intelligent topics, etc etc, you see the kind.

I am looking for people who are thoughtful, preferably who have a similar timezone as me (im from france), and who consider themselves as intelligent and who can hold conversations and debates over things or even philosophical topics.

I am very lonely, but just because I am doesn't mean i'll just use you to fill the void, I actually want someone I can stay a loyal friend to :) I can come off as cold as first but I am very loving

Hi, I need some outsider's perspectives because I feel really shocked and I almost have a gut feeling about this and someone telling me that they think my reaction is understandable would REALLY help me.

I (16F) was in a relationship with (19M) for around a year now. We've obviously had arguments yadiyadiyada. We are online (boohoo, but i'm homeschooled so it's difficult to meet people irl). Around 11 months ago, while in a call, he told me in a joking tone that he saved explicit content on his phone (he wasn't joking), I got rubbed from the disrespect not only to save things like these while in a relationship but especially by the fact he told me it as if it was funny. I explained that it was almost a deal breaker for me and he said he stopped doing it and deleted everything.

Recently, he admitted that he only stopped saving stuff for about 2 months (I never asked him to stop watching btw, just to stop saving, he knows and has understood that) and then continued, his excuse was that we had broken up (for a day then got back together) so it reset his duties. He hid this from me the entire time and admitted to doing it a few days ago, i am baffled.

I am so hurt, he broke my boundary (which he said wasn't a boundary just capricious behaviour) he hid it for months and when he told me he wouldn't understand why this was a big deal for me

Because of how I felt, I told him i couldn't trust his word anymore especially on that topic and asked for reassurance (i asked for him to show me his gallery and deleting the photos and never talking about it ever again) i didn't wanna invade his privacy, i just needed that to rebuild my trust.

he refused and said that it's "his private space", he "doesn't want to be controlled" and that if i don't trust him it's my problem

obv things escalated in text, we had an argument about what we could compromise (which is my demand i said earlier) he wanted me to trust his word and not show anything even if he lied (he didnt like it being called lying and wanted me to call it hiding) and he suggested the compromise that instead of showing me online his gallery after he deleted pics, i should meet him in real life alone and go through his phone then (he coming in a month). PLUS he said he also wanted to meet in private to tell me some stuff that "couldn't be said online" because they are "private", ?? sounds bad no?

this gave me a gut feeling, i told him that i don't feel safe, that i doubt him, that im scared what he'll do cuz it sounds shady, that it's unfair to expect blind trust after that etc and that maybe id be willing to meet him irl almost alone as long as we were in a crowded place but wanted to see him screenshare his gallery online..

instead of reassuring me he dismissed all my concerns, framed things as a "trade" (me coming alone, him showing gallery after deleting), said i'm playing the victim, refused my compromise entirely, etc..

we talked a bit more and i was angry and confused, he ended up saying that the reason he wanted to meet me alone and make me go through his phone was so that i'd feel shameful for doubting him.

now i feel hurt, betrayed, confused, shocked, and uneasy about the whole situation

am i overreacting? is there a better way to do this? is his behaviour concerning? i think it is but yeah lmk and is there even a way to fix this? idk