u/KitKatKalamazoo

TLDR: Are there any online or physical eye exercises I can do to help give my eyes some relief?

I was diagnosed with BVD 2 years ago. Went through 8 months of prisms at my first specialist and then the rest of the time at a different specialist. The second one caught my astigmatism and horizontal misalignment (I also have a vertical misalignment).

The prisms seemed to not help me all the way so I was advised to start Vision therapy. I did 5 months of it with maybe a 10% improvement. I decided to stop because we weren't getting anywhere with my treatment and it was starting to become too expensive.

My eyes seemed fine for awhile, but in the last month they started to feel sore/achey and I'm having difficulty driving again. It's like there's too much going on while driving so my eyes are constantly "moving" even if I keep them relatively straight.

I'd love to go to a different vision therapist but I just can't afford it while I'm getting treatment for some other chronic issues. So, are there any online or physical eye exercises I can do to help give my eyes some relief? The eye strain triggers bad jaw pain which then triggers migraines....and this has become a daily occurrence 😭

This is specifically my husband's issue right now. He's the type of person who will automatically say "hey" or "hey, what's up?" when someone calls him. I don't think I've ever heard him say anything else in the 16 years I've been with him.

The issue is, every time his mom calls, and he picks up with "hey" (hell, even when he texts it to her) she gets super mad and tells him it's disrespectful to say that to her. Is it, really? This grates his nerves and he honestly would rather say nothing than "good afternoon" or "hello mom" or anything like what she wants.

For context, he's always had a rocky relationship with her and they got out of a no contact situation a few months ago that lasted around 3 years. He has gone no contact with her before which lasted around 2 years. She's the type of person to talk over you and never let you get a word in and then thinks that you're OK with whatever she said because...you can't talk about it. She has very controlling behavior and will guilt trip him over literally everything.

I know it's a weird issue to have and most will think "just stop saying hey", but when you've grown up with someone who is so controlling of everything about your life, it's hard to not push back and say "no, I can do or say what I want" (within reason, obviously). It's more about having autonomy as an adult without the need to bend over backwards for his moms every whim.

TLDR

Husbands mom says using "hey" to answer a phone call or text is disrespectful. After a lifetime of emotional manipulation and a couple of times of going no contact, he would rather keep saying "hey" or nothing at all.