No Contact Advice
I did a post some time ago about my ex gf leaving me. This is the post:
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I should point out that english is not my first language, so please forgive me if there are any mistakes.
Me (21M) and my ex gf (21F) went to highschool together. We never talked much and she was with someone from the 3rd year to the first half of the 1st year of university (4 years pretty much).
She started texting me more often after leaving the guy in february/march '24, and eventually we got together in august '24. We had a very sincere and comunicative relationship. We never had any problems of any kind and if we had some misunderstandings we would solve them in 5 minutes. We talked about having a future together and that we were exactly what we were searching for in a lifetime partner.
So 1.5 years pass, in which we have the most wholesome moments. She also used to tell me that her ex wasnt very much supporting/present in their relationship and that he didnt value showing love as much as she would like to. So she told me that she loved being shown love every day in some form, and given the fact that i loved doing it, we were so compatible. We are now in february '26. We had a very romantic valentine's day and as usual we told each other how much we were meant for each other.
Then, she had a 3 weeks period in which she would go to another city for uni/exams. This wasnt the first time she would do these periods of time there.
But this time I noticed that when we were on the phone she was becoming more and more cold towards me. I thought it was because of the exam so I wasnt worried too much, but i had a gut feelings that something was off.
When she came back (2nd week of march), we went out to have breakfast to celebrate her exam. Then she told me that her feelings had been fading in the last month or so and that she didnt want to have a future with me anymore.
As you can imagine, i was devastated. I tried to understand what went wrong. She told me that it was her that changed, that i did or had nothing wrong. I asked her to give me some sort of motivation for the breakup, but she said she couldnt and didnt have one. Yes, i asked her if there was someone else, but she said there isn't (now i dont know if i can trust that). I was replaying every single day of our relationship to find a moment or something to point the finger to. Obviously i failed.
It's been now 2 months of absolutely 0 contact since we broke up, i am absolutely devastated, while she seems to be enjoying her new single life like nothing happened (i saw her ig profile a couple of times).
Did you ever have some similar experience? If yes, did she ever try to come back?
How can i get over this?
Thanks to everyone that read all of this.
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End of the post.
Now I feel I have to truly go on with my life without thinking of her. I'm tired of waiting for someone who will probably never text or call me.
I wanted to ask for your opinion on my last text I wanted to send her before fully letting her go forever:
"Hi, I'm writing you because I need some clarity for myself. I've left the door open for these past months, but now I feel the need to truly move forward. I just wanted to ask you if you had any kind of second thoughts. I the answer is no, I understand, I just needed to hear it to fully close this chapter without any further expectations"