u/KrystleOfQuartz

That men aren’t completely useless with approx 75% of tasks they are given, by their wives.

Literally I end up having to do everything myself bc the thought process in their minds is so different and we like things done a certain way.

With the exception of working, paying bills, cutting lawn and taking care of the cars and outside of the home, he is just clueless!

He’s not maliciously like this, this is a lack of grasping the depth needed to be an involved parent. It’s almost like an inability to tap into what the child needs. I get frustrated he’s not doing exactly what a mother would do. Do I need to accept that this is just how he is as a dad? It lacks emotional depth.

Doesn’t have the softness, the patience, the ability to see things and anticipate an outcome, JUST DOESNT THINK. ARE THEIR MEN OUT THERE THAT DONT NEED TO BE TOLD WHAT TO DO 100000000 times????

Again- this seems like this is a handicap of this individual I am realizing .

Hi y’all. Looking for some recs for an *exquisite* spa on the east coast. As far north as Maine all the way to Florida. Please send the most superior options.!

Looking for recommendations on shoes for a newly walking toddler. I see a lot of kids in crocs and the micro plastics in them really deter me. Especially when the kids sweat.

I looked into Keen, that’s my first choice. But my kid keeps trying to unvelcro the shoes she already has and I want a slip on instead.

I keep returning every pair we buy bc of the velcro issue lol help

I mentally store all the insults my MIL has given me over the last 4 years. It started when we lost our first baby.

“You can get pregnant again, anytime”
“You can actually get pregnant anytime of the month”
“I don’t understand why you are so upset you still have time, you’re only 35”
“I don’t understand why you won’t come to XYZs baby shower, how are you still upset”

Then after the next few pregnancy losses…

“I don’t think your marriage is going to last” (to my husband, not me)
“I don’t understand why you’re isolating yourself”

Then FINALLY after having a baby
“Baby is too thin”
“Are you sure the doctor thinks they are thriving?”
“Are you sure everything is okay because baby doesn’t look like XYZ’s baby”
“You need to feed them rice water, baby isn’t getting filled up from your milk”
“Baby isn’t doing XYZ (every single milestone that baby is slow to grasp and baby is 2 now, she rubs everything she thinks I’m doing wrong in my face. Even though my kid is PERFECTLY FINE, and is their own person!!)

“You are finally thin again because you’re not scared to go out into the world”
“Baby is too fat”
“Why are you always feeding baby everytime I talk to you”
“Why are you always feeding baby eggs”
“Why aren’t you asking me to see the baby”
“Baby looks exactly like daddy, thank god for XYZ features”

I mean the comments are literally driving me EFFING NUTS. Guys, I’m going to explode. And it’s not going to be pretty. Yes these are petty comments, but they are like death of a thousand cuts over and over. I’m already a very insecure person and I just take it as I’m never doing anything right. And as a new mom, it’s scary as hell.

Every single time she says something to me that’s rude I cannot even form the sentence to reply I just sit there in shock.

But the result is withholding my kid from her.

She doesn’t even call my husband for anything either, she calls ME. I said to my husband, why is it my responsibility to maintain your relationship with your mother? Why is it my responsibility to plan to see your mother? I literally stopped answering her calls, texts. And she STILL CALLS ME!

I truly think she knows I’m an easy target and loves bossing me around, and jabbing me with her shit comments.

It’s eating me alive.

Would you allow your unvaccinated with MMR child, to have a play date with a newly vaccinated (2days) MMR child?

I know it’s a live virus, and google tells me one thing but I truly feel worried and am leaning towards no.

Can some other moms chime in on their routines for self care because what I’m doing right now is not working for me. Also, I am not a morning person and cannot get up earlier than 7. I’m 40 and I just accept at this point I will not ever be a 5/6am go getter lol.

I’m a first time SAHM (I’m one and done) and I am very overwhelmed by the fact that I straight up don’t have enough time in the day to take care of myself.

During my kids 2 nap times I have to lay down and relax (autoimmune issues an I get very fatigued). I’m 1.5 yrs postpartum 120lbs and eat very well and take thyroid meds but still feel like I got by a truck most days when I over do it. Regardless, when my kid goes to bed at 7/730 I have to do the following:

Shower, Pilates workout on my reformer for 30-45 mins bc I don’t have time for a longer workout, stand on my vibration plate for 25 mins. Use my celluma panel on my face for 30 mins, try to watch a movie or read a book for 30-40 mins. Oh and pump bc I am weening from breastfeeding.

Thank you all so much

Would love to pick someone’s brain on Chimala denim. Does anyone here have a few pairs? Can you explain sizing differences and what your experience has been like for purchasing? I have known the brand for a very long time but recently thrifted a pair for 120$, and they are a 26- running huge. Also noticed stretching out during first wear. Ofcourse I know denim sizing is dependent on style. But some brands can be more consistent. Thanks.