Need a contractor/remodel person. Please reach out if that’s you or someone you know or someone you have used before.
Work I need done:
Move an outlet
Kitchen countertops
Kitchen backsplash
Kickplates and spacers for kitchen cabinets
Grout touchup throughout house
Caulk baseboards throughout house
Install baseboard in laundry room
Renovate guest bath shower
Met my girlfriend in February of this year. I honestly never thought I would ever vibe so hard with another human being, let alone someone I am attracted to. I met her after she had just separated from her abusive ex. This wonderful soul I met eventually became a real person who also had their own set of flaws and issues, but I love her nonetheless. Over the last 6 months I feel like I found my person which is something in my 29 years of life I had never thought was an experience I would ever get.
I would say I am an emotionally intelligent person who was able to take many of the issues that popped up in stride and was willing to work with her to get past all of them which almost exclusively stemmed from her abusive ex.
When he showed up to her house unannounced seemingly every week, I stood by her. When he stopped paying her child support, I insisted on helping pay for things. When she needed to do minor home repairs, I did them. When she wanted to put security cameras up in her house, I crawled through the attic. When she was cooking dinner for her kids, I helped. When she needed to clean her house, I helped clean. When her kids were getting ready for bed, I read a book to them. When her ex beat her, lied to the police, and got her arrested, I bailed her out of jail and stood by her.
When we were having intercourse, In the heat of the moment, she said his name.
My reaction began with stunned silence. I couldn’t fucking believe what I heard. Then I started hyperventilating. Then I started sobbing and completely broke down crying into her chest.
I’ve never felt so betrayed, so heartbroken, so crushed in that moment. It felt like I was second place to someone I think is vile, a loser. I felt like a fool for putting so much time and energy and everything into this relationship where I know I’m not flawless but she tells me I’m the best thing that has ever happened to her. I want to believe her.
It felt like her ex ruined every weekend we had together before the no contact order, and now his ghost still manages to do it.
She explained to me how much she loves me and hates him and I do believe her, but god did it punch a hole through my chest. I still reassured her that I know her feelings for me are true.
Not sure if I’m looking for advice or not. I just feel like I hit an emotional tipping point and this particular issue isn’t something I can discuss with anyone I know and at the end of the day it’s up to me to move past it.
Plate is pollo saltado which is just something I made weeks ago as a play on Lomo Saltado with chicken instead of beef.