u/Lady_Elle_Jaye

So, I recently had a very big epiphany about myself and my asexuality and how it showed up in my life since almost forever without me even realizing it.

Ever since I was a kid I kept being fascinated by (or "smitten with" if you will) kind, soft, gentle male fictional characters from movies and tv shows that all have one big thing in common:

They're all (mostly unintentionally) being portrayed in a very asexual way without actually being labled asexual, i.e. no explicit direct or indirect flirting with women, no sex scenes or innuendos of such, no kissing, no petting, no pursuing women in sexual ways at all. Even if some of them are married only affectionate hugs and/or pecks are shared between them and their partners.

Now I am well aware of course that "if you don't see it it doesn't mean it doesn't happen", meaning that it's not shown in the medium doesn't mean it's nothing said character would still engage in. But that being said it not being shown makes all of them at least appear "asexual" in a way.

I only now realized that this way of portrayal is what makes me fancy these characters in the first place. I had never given it much of a thought. I always considered that I was simply attracted to kind, soft, gentle men. Which is true, I very much am!

But one huge detail I kept missing was that as soon as they would say, do or consider anything even remotely sexual it would immediately turn me off. Which is why I crush on the above mentioned kind of fictional characters so hard: they don't show any sexual behaviour or interest in women (or men or any human being for that point)!

Now my favourite example for this is probably my all-time ultimate movie crush: Carlisle Cullen form the Twilight movies (pls don't judge). Yes, he is married to Emse. But apart from a gentle hug or a soft peck on the cheek they don't appear sexual at all (I think they kiss at some point at the end of Eclipse but when I re-watch the movies I hardly get past Breaking Dawn because I really don't like it).

Second to mention is Dr. Harry Goodsir from The Terror. The way he interacts with and respects Silna ("Lady Silence") in the show is just too sweet (and hot) and the way they are portrayed together never suggest anything sexual between them despite them both undoubtedly having a very strong emotional bond.

Another great example I only encountered yesterday is Praetorian Jack from Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga. Him and Furiosa unmistakably share an emotional bond, they even caress eachother at one point in the movie. But at no time it is even remotely suggested that they're a romantic couple and/or angage in sexual activities.

So knowing now that I am quite obviously attracted to men who pursue women if anything romantically but definitely NOT sexually: what are other examples you have of human male fictional characters from movies and tv shows that you guys like and who appear as described? Because this girl is looking to extend her horizon/canon! ^^

So, I recently had a very big epiphany about myself and my asexuality and how it showed up in my life since almost forever without me even realizing it.

Ever since I was a kid I kept being fascinated by (or "smitten with" if you will) kind, soft, gentle male fictional characters from movies and tv shows that all have one big thing in common:

They're all (mostly unintentionally) being portrayed in a very asexual way without actually being labled asexual, i.e. no explicit direct or indirect flirting with women, no sex scenes or innuendos of such, no kissing, no petting, no pursuing women in sexual ways at all. Even if some of them are married only affectionate hugs and/or pecks are shared between them and their partners.

Now I am well aware of course that "if you don't see it it doesn't mean it doesn't happen", meaning that it's not shown in the medium doesn't mean it's nothing said character would still engage in. But that being said it not being shown makes all of them at least appear "asexual" in a way.

I only now realized that this way of portrayal is what makes me fancy these characters in the first place. I had never given it much of a thought. I always considered that I was simply attracted to kind, soft, gentle men. Which is true, I very much am!

But one huge detail I kept missing was that as soon as they would say, do or consider anything even remotely sexual it would immediately turn me off. Which is why I crush on the above mentioned kind of fictional characters so hard: they don't show any sexual behaviour or interest in women (or men or any human being for that point)!

Now my favourite example for this is probably my all-time ultimate movie crush: Carlisle Cullen form the Twilight movies (pls don't judge). Yes, he is married to Emse. But apart from a gentle hug or a soft peck on the cheek they don't appear sexual at all (I think they kiss at some point at the end of Eclipse but when I re-watch the movies I hardly get past Breaking Dawn because I really don't like it).

Second to mention is Dr. Harry Goodsir from The Terror. The way he interacts with and respects Silna ("Lady Silence") in the show is just too sweet (and hot) and the way they are portrayed together never suggest anything sexual between them despite them both undoubtedly having a very strong emotional bond.

Another great example I only encountered yesterday is Praetorian Jack from Furiosa: A Mad Max Saga. Him and Furiosa unmistakably share an emotional bond, they even caress eachother at one point in the movie. But at no time it is even remotely suggested that they're a romantic couple and/or angage in sexual activities.

So knowing now that I am quite obviously attracted to men who pursue women if anything romantically but definitely NOT sexually: what are other examples you have of male fictional characters from movies and tv shows that you guys like and who appear as described? Because this girl is looking to extend her horizon/canon! ^^