u/LamaPajamas

I'm 24, turning 25 next month.

Due to life circumstances and unfortunate events I'm kinda behind mentally? I feel like I'm a year out of highschool but I'm not. I went to university for linguistics, covid hit and I dropped out. I've just been doing cleaning jobs ever since.

Now I'm three years into this decent cleaning job $25/hr have about 5k saved up and a bit in investing. I met the most amazing man two years ago (going on three) he's brought up a proposal a couple times (his parents got married nine months into knowing eachother) I love him, I trust him considerably, and spending time with him has felt like living with a best friend but better, I would say yes.

Here's the kicker, he wants kids early, and would prefer for me to be a stay at home mother.

I just applied and got accepted for a collage. It's 30min away from our house, most of it would be paid for because it's in the trades and I'm a woman. This conversation has also sparked my bfs curiosity into different avenues like being a mechanic (he's currently in line for the throne of a big farm)

My goal was to complete my education, and pay off any amount of debt that I accumulate with local welding jobs and working on his farm with the machinery. Then once paid off I would have a couple children (I find the thought of birth terrifying but think it would be fulfilling to raise a bunch of little gremlins) and maybeee be a stay at home mom until they grow up. I'd buy a motorcycle and go traveling across the country.

I'm worried I'm jumping into welding without a second thought, because I'm scared of being financially dependent on someone, and want to have a skill in my back pocket that might provide for me. Also when I tell people what I want to get into it's treated as an attention grab, which is making me doubt what I want. Also mildly scared of being a single mom since I have no family.

I'm just stuck in a mental loop, of what I want, what I need, and what my bf wants. I'd appreciate some of your ancient wisdom.

I'd also like to note that my bf and I have signed a cohabitation agreement separating our finances until marriage since we're common law. Also worried about getting married and laying on debt to my future husband for no good reason

I'd like to say that's I've grew up without social media until I was 16. Extremely outdoorsy. Power went out for three days no problem. I've went camping with no phone, no problem. I honestly throught it would be a breeze. (I've seen one of my ex's have a panic attack over no having wifi for two days) I thought I was so much better than that. But I guess not lmao

The fact that I'm consciously not picking up my phone, I've gotten a flip phone, and I try not to touch it and focus on hobbies.it is so difficult. I had a huge ego around tech, that I wasn't addicted but bro I'm almost itching to scroll, to comment on something that doesn't matter. I'm really frustrated that I keep picking up my phone for nothing!

I'm only a week and a half in of no smart phone, and It feels like insanity. I've finished reading a bunch of books but a lot of my hobbies feel out of reach and boring. I find I'm more bitchy. Literally. I'm into work drama all of a sudden and nit picking my own relationships out of sheer boredom. I'm constantly apologizing for my behavior.

My brain is screaming for dopamine! It's miserable, I'm miserable. I know it only gets better but holy crap

Hi I'm looking to make a new account to limit doomscrolling, I would love some barely active, maybe a bit weird niche subreddits.

Best example is the subreddit that posts photos of trees that are oddly in line and look to be a korok puzzle from tears of the kingdom, or mildly Evangelion. I also like nature stuff so foraging or crafts or maybe educational

Literally just boring subs.

So I got my flip phone and I plan on locking my smartphone up tomorrow.

My flip phone has messaging for Snapchat and discord, and I was thinking about keeping Reddit as I've average around 20 minutes a day on it while following more than 60 subreddits.

I wanted suggestions on subreddits that I could follow with a new account to slowly ween myself off of social media. Iwas thinking hobby related subs like penpals, recipes, baking, foraging, etc

I would love suggestions on niche, slow, maybe slightly boring, and minimal posting (but not dead) subreddits that I could join 🙏🏻