u/Lanky-Bite-1452

I 24 cis F am heartbroken that my husband (24 MtF) of 1.5 years (4 yrs together) just came out to me as trans. He still wants to go by he/him for now so that is what I will be doing. I have been crying all day. I really love him and cannot imagine my life without him. I 100% support his transition and I wish all the best for him. However, I am not attracted to women and I don’t think I could be married to one.

He has been thinking about this for years and has fully known for about 4 months. He has spoken with a therapist and some of our trans friends about it.

He knows I don’t want to date women and we have been talking through compromises all day (like still living together and remaining friends etc.) He is now backtracking and saying he could potentially not transition fully or not be fully out to everyone. I have been saying that I think he’d be happier if he is fully out and true to himself as I don’t hear many stories that end well with a trans person who lives their entire life in the closet.

PLEASE give advice if you have any input.

Thanks everyone :( sorry for jumbled language I’m still working through it.

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