Absent parents/grandparents, lets move on.
Im female, 42. Two kids aged 13 and 9. Live 10.000km away from my own parents and sending them money every month. My FIL lives 20min away and has a girlfriend since 7 years.all of them refused to help me with my kids even once a year.
I have not been away for 1 night, from my kids since they 2021. No date nights since 2021. Its 2026 now.
All of them are very, very good at making excuses, and ask why we dont visit anymore. They like to show the world that they are caring and present grandparents but it's US who do not visit. Yea yea.
I can write an 8 seasons drama about them, what they do and what they say. But im done being hurt for 13 years now. I quit them, ignore them a lot, not bothered by what they say, and feel less and less toward them. I just feel nothing.
in reddit I've seen so many hurt people in +/- same situation. Seriously, do move on. Make effort to move on. Dont worry about forgiving or whatever sht, just try to move on. Whenever u think about the issue and you get upset, just tell yourself: but i have moved on. You will feel better and better.
stop trying to fix it.
There is a gap between what we had wished for, and what the reality is. Acknowledge the gap, stop trying to close it, and just move on.
there are many many other things worth doing.
Relationships are TWO WAYS y'all.
I hope this reaches as many people as possible and help you to heal and move on.
peace.