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Im so over her, she’s been quite okay to tolerate till I became pregnant and since then (5 months now) I’ve been absolutely drained by her „energy”.

To start from the very beginning she’s been very involved in my pregnancy since we found out. I told my mum straight away because it’s my 1st and I wanted her to be there for me so I felt like it’s only fair enough I allow my husband to share the news with his mother, I wish I just told him to wait.

She started with excessive shopping for the baby that I specifically said NOT to do because I don’t know the gender and I don’t want my child rocking beige and white for most of his 1st year, then she got herself a crib for overnight stays which she will never do so I guess she just wasted her money (she has a history of abusing alcohol and leaving her own toddlers alone in the house middle of the night), then I can’t hear the end of „HE LOOKS JUST LIKE HIS DAD” - idk how she can tell from black and white ultrasounds? When I hit 12 weeks she made an announcement of MY baby on her Facebook post (this time she at least hid my personal info before posting) 🤣 btw I am not on social media at all, I’m a very private person so that flipped me off. Of course she doesn’t hesitate to absolutely violate my personal space and touch my belly all over but I think that’s given by the way she acts, last time I snapped and threw her hands off me since words of „no” been doing nothing.

Now we going into more exciting stuff - she decided to plan my baby shower, very normal in many cultures that it’s not the mother planning the baby shower so I was like yeah whatever I just want a BBQ with family and friends, no games, private setting, I can provide food with my husband and I asked that she sends the registry list to guests if anyone wants to get us something (we live in the apartment I need to be mindful of space and don’t want random crap). Well safe to say she ignored all of this and I am about to tell her this weekend that I am cancelling the baby shower and I’m fine not having one and what I will do is just invite people that are close to the restaurant to celebrate, she will be probably pissed but I don’t care anymore.

The cherry on the top was this morning when she made my ultrasound with ALL personal information her background on Facebook with the setting where everyone can see it - I lost it, I messaged my husband that I am sick of her doing all this shit, I’m not going to be visiting her anymore with him, I’m sick of babysitting his mum and since he can’t manage his own mother then best for me to just cut her off. I don’t want her to visit me when I give birth, I don’t want her to be at my doorstep when I have a newborn and I just got to this point where I don’t want her involved at all 🤝

I hope this way, it’s my road to success this time with my MIL 🤞 I am hoping to upload success post in a couple of months when am peacefully with my newborn son 🥳

I’ve been suffering from sciatica pain even before I was pregnant so when I found out I was pregnant I focused even more on my exercise routine to make sure I don’t have issues later on.

I mistaken PGP (pelvic girdle pain) for my sciatica and I only realised today when a big pain hit me as if I was electrocuted in my right buttock. I was out the whole day yesterday and today and as of today I can’t walk longer distances than 10 minutes. I started getting bigger around my lower belly at 21 weeks so I am pretty sure it is to do with growth.

My question is: what do I do? I don’t really want to be bed bound for next 4 months, I have a pregnancy pillow which I always sleep with, I do stretching exercises that’s been recommended to me and I also have a pregnancy ball to help but I just keep waddling and have this shooting pain down my right buttock… 😭

I have a GP appointment on Monday, I wonder what I should push for? Physio referral, pain management? I’m just at loss with this pain.

Currently 5 weeks post op and I miss Pilates dearly. Of course those are deep core exercises and I had laparoscopic surgery.

ChatGPT says I should be fine to return next week but just watch out for pain. Unfortunately, I don’t have direct line for surgery team and I was dismissed after removing stitches so I’d probably have to wait months to have a consult for the sake of a simple question (wouldn’t like to waste their time for that).

From the notes from the physio it says I can fully return after 12 weeks but that seems like a very long time and everything feels to be healed.

Anyone who is a fan of fitness and has a return story post op? When did you return? How was it?