I feel like a lot of people who are currently debating to detransition feel stuck. Feel like they ruined their life forever.
I’ve read a few detrans stories here and it kinda gave me hope, hope for an enjoyable life afterwards.
Feel free to share your story <3
Im 19 and young looking I feel like I could never pass with this voice when speaking. Im Lucky I never got top surgery, I’m convinced I could pass as woman appearance wise. I’m unable to just detransition socially right now but I’m very scared my life will be harder than before after doing it. Voice training and surgery is still an option but that’s not a promise it’ll 100% work out.
If anyone had similar worries before going back to become a cis woman lmk. And how much it actually influenced your life. I don’t want to justify myself for the rest of my life being a cis woman all the time so people don’t treat me like a freak.
How I imagine it right now, barley speaking up in public, not wanting to go outside, especially not alone. Having to justify yourself all the time. I don’t want those situations to dominate my life.
Since I realized my identity of being a trans man was caused by trauma, depression, low self esteem, autism, adhd, confusion, puberty, gender envy, sexual assault, I’m genuinely questioning everything. I have a lot of trans friends. But how do you feel like a man? Gender is a social construct, society decided how men and women are supposed to dress and act. There was this study there they compared cis men and women’s brain with trans men and women’s. The result was: there are noticeable differences but they couldn’t 100% explain transgender identity based on this data.
And the thing with you are born with female genitalia and your brain develops incorrect and suddenly produces wrong hormones or whatever, also kinda weird to me and not 100% the answer.
My point is, there’s no answer which actually completely proves that this is reality. If anyone knows better than me or is educated about this feel free to explain it to me.
I’ve noticed a pattern of people with serious mental health issues ended up trans, and those health issues weren’t even connected to their identity. I think all of my trans friends are mentally unstable.
While starting testo I never got the education I needed, they just expected me to know my identity,