
Neighbor is going to demolish a house next to my garage. They want access to my landscaped yard to do it. Is a contract warranted?
location: NY, USA
So, long story short, I live in a small city where houses are generally on the street, and in the back yard are garages that face an alleyway. Most homes and garages are from the Victorian era (roughly 150 years old). My neighbor's land parcel has a second small house on the alley instead of a garage, which no one lives in.
They currently use it for storage despite one of the basement walls having fallen in at some point before we moved in 6 years ago.
This alley house is about two feet from the fence that divides our property, and probably 15 feet from my garage. In between the house and the garage is a new hardscaped path.
I spent $50,000 getting my yard completely hardscaped three years ago. It's lovely and I want to do nothing to it.
However, my neighbor is asking to have access to my yard for the demolition crew to demolish the house, heavy machinery, rip up our path, etc. My husband verbally told him yes without asking me (we both own the property). Once I heard that, I texted my neighbor to tell him he needed to first find a crew, and if the crew says they need to use our yard, we need a contract about what is going to happen in our yard, what part of the yard they'll use, how damages will be repaired, who will repair them, who will pay, and when.
The house is also undoubtably covered in lead paint and might contain asbestos. Neither of which I want in my yard where my toddler plays. So I guess I should add an abatement clause?
We have a friendly relationship with our neighbors. I want to maintain this; however, there is a limit. I don't want to let them destroy or contaminate a part of the backyard unless I know they're going to put it back exactly, quickly, and pay for it. I could just say outright "no" but that seems meaner than making a contract.
If they do want to use my yard, I am going into "asshole neighbor mode" if I actually draft a contract for us to sign? I feel like it's necessary to ensure our property is returned to its original state in a timely manner.
Or am I not being serious enough and I should have a professional make the contract?