I read the first 2 1/2 chapters and they were a total snooze fest. Are there any funny chapters in the book that I skip to, before I toss it aside forever?
My father gave my mother a stroke with his selfish narcissistic behavior two months ago. She still worships the ground he walks on, and they have always gotten along well because of that.
She is still in rehab two months later. He had not said a word to me this entire time. He has not asked me how I'm doing, etc. I tried to go over to his house and call him to offer emotional support, and every single time he screamed at me to leave him alone, because he doesn't like me, doesn't want to be around me, and he never has.
So, I did.
I haven't spoken to him in weeks, and basically forgot he existed. I didn't really know how to handle Father's Day. He's abandoned my aunt with dementia (no matter what. I could be in a coma and she could need someone to pick up life sustaining medicine, and he wouldn't pick it up for her because he finds her aphasia too annoying and so doesn't want anything to do with her) and I didn't get to see her last week because I was busy with work. I also planned on doing some volunteer work that day.
So, I told him and my mother that I didn't know if I should abandon my aunt for another Sunday and volunteering for him if he does not want to be around me, but I will if he does want to be around me. My mother says she wants to have lunch in the courtyard of her rehab facility which I agree to after I volunteer, and that becomes the plan for Father's Day. I buy him a present.
Today, I call him and ask what the plan is, what time I should meet him there, etc.. He goes on and on about how I don't HAVE to see him for Father's Day, and that if there's anything else for me to do I should do that instead. It's VERY clear that he does not want to be around me. It was a mean, mean-spirited thing to do, so I said something mean back which was "Mom said I had to." He says he'll be there until 5:00 PM so we agree I'll drop by before 5:00 PM.
As I'm getting ready to leave, I see a text on my phone. He went to the rehab facility and asked my mother to write me a text message excusing me from Father's Day.
What are your thoughts?
I'm still watching. Jane Krakowski's a goddess.
"Now give three cheers...I'll lead the way...Hoo-rah! Hoo-rah! Hoo-raaaay! Hoo-raaaay! Hoo-raaaay!" -
HMS Pinafore
My godmother has been in a memory care facility that rhymes with schmatria for one week and she’s being verbally and psychologically abused.
I can hear in her voice that she’s being abused she said the staff yells at her and all the other residents, they’re cruel to them, and they drag her around by the arm. I asked if she wanted me to say something and she said “I wish you wouldn’t because they will do the most to you. they’ll make you sit in a chair by yourself”. I asked if she wanted to ask for help getting back to her room or if she wanted me to ask and she said they had put her in some other room by herself and she was scared to ask them for help going back to her room. I called her last week and the person helping her had a screaming match with her when she didn’t understand what was going on. that’s not the first time I’ve heard them speaking to her disrespectfully. It can’t get any better from here, because she’s going to lose he speech at some point.
I read another thread on this sub Reddit where a memory care facility had lost her mother who wandered out, and Redditors said to not think of complaining to anyone or she’d be kicked out and then black listed from all other memory care facilities.
So, how should I handle this?
Also, are there any memory care facilities or alternatives to memory care in the NY/NJ area that have staff who actually treat residents like they’re trained to?