Childhood best friend ghosted me on my wedding
First of all, sorry if i mess up a few times, english is not my first language and i might still be a little hangover...
So basically my best friend since Kindergarden for like 25 years, never showed up to 3 separate occations related to my wedding.
I've been together with my (now) wife for around 15 years and we finally decided last year that we maybe "do" want a wedding... my friend knew me since we were like 4 years old and we stayed bf's until we turned like 25, so naturally me and my wife were also a big part of his life.. the last few years however our ways separated a little due to different jobs, we moved to different cities, life happend...
But, for the wedding i wanted him back in my life and tried to spend some more time with him again.. i told him about our engagement and invited him for my bachelor party, the small registry office Party and the actual wedding party (different days). I even asked him if he wanted to be my best man.. (which he declined due to some personal stuff and he thought he would lack the time to handle it properly)... at the bachelor party he wrote the very morning that he was sick and couldn't come... All fine here, we all get sick, thought nothing of it and wished him to get well soon..
.. then a few weeks later the registry office event came.. we planned a small party with a little finger food and music ...but he didn't show up.. i checked our whatsapp messages and he definetly said he was well again and that he would love to come.
sneakily asked him the day after if all was fine, since i was a little confused and wanted to see if he just missed the date or something..
: No no i'm fine, all good just chilling.. you ?
: ahh you know little tired from the registry office party yesterday, but we're happy..
:haha yea i can imagine!
... kept it there.. either he forgot he wanted to come, or he didn't wanted to talk about it, no reason to pursuit it any more than this.
So naturally i wanted to make sure and checked a few days ahead if he's still good for the actual wedding party, the big one, where every guest actually costs a lot of money and planing time ( yesterday) ...
: yeah, totally ! Can't wait, it's gonna be great!
So.. the wedding started and actually all guests came.. except for one guy... my ex best friend.. no call, no message, no "sorry i won't make it".. just never showed up... the 3rd time in a row, for what is kind of the most important event in our lifes...and after the third time this feels no longer like a coincidence.
This is only "mildly infuriating" (for me at least) because i still had an amazing wedding, me and my wife had the best day of our life with so many people that cared for us, and we're truly blessed
but we realised that this one guy that was present for most of our relationship, just maybe doesn't want to be a part of our lifes anymore...
I wish you all a great day !