u/LeastConcerned

Hey everyone! Looking for people who have been in my situation or similar.

My AuDHD kid, 6, has been with living with me for the past four years, with bi-weekly weekends at his dad's.

Since his dad got married last year, he's been asking for full-time custody, now that he has help and is no longer single. I'm willing to do 50/50. However, since I was on my own with no childcare, and on ODSP, I haven't worked in a while. Also, I live in North York and he lives in Mississauga. And to add, my car will need to be replaced soon, but my credit is shit and I have only a little savings.

He said he and his wife would love to take him full-time while I get my life back together, move to Mississauga, and then do 50/50.

I'm inclined to agree, because he's got a stepbrother over there, and his stepmother loves him and treats him well. Plus, they both make good money and I know my son would be well cared for. I just keep telling myself it will be temporary, as long as I get things in order ASAP.

Has anyone been in my situation? How did you cope with being away from your kid?

Hey, so this happened today. I got my kid from the bus downstairs, got into the elevator and I see my neighbor's kid. We get off on our floor and he's kocking on his door but there's no answer, but I saw my neighbor leave to go meet him at the bus. So I told him that I saw her downstairs, and he went to check. A few minutes later he knocks at my door and says he can't find his mom. My son, 6, is AuDHD and doesn't have many friends. We'll he was just soooooo excited and told he boy to come in and I said, yes that's fine. My son shows the kid around the livingroom and his bedroom, I am there the entire time. I then ask the kid if he knows his mom's number, he doesn't. I ask if she has FB or IG, he says no. So I make a note for my neighbor and leave it on her door. I then stand at the window waiting for any sight of my neighbor while the kids played Roblox and had a freezie. My neighbor shows up about 15 minutes later, in tears, but happy her kid is safe. We exchange numbers and she tells me over text that she is happy that he felt comfortable enough to come to my unit.

I tell my sister what happened and she is annoyed that I let the kid inside. She says I should have waited in the lobby. So, I agree, for my safety and liability reason, yes I should have waited in the lobby, but it was hearfelt seeing my son so happy playing with the kid, it completely slipped my mind to go wait downstairs. But, was I really so wrong?

EDIT: Thanks everyone for your kind words, they helped, and thank you to those who brought up some good points. I know that I am a safe person, but yes, anyone could have accused me of anything, I would have been shit outta luck. Thankfully everything went well and my neighbor is happy. We'll wait in the common areas next time.

EDIT: Yes, as some have pointed out, I shouldn't have let my son give the kid a freezie. It's not an excuse, but I'm old and when I was that young in school nobody had allergies, not even peanut, so I obviously wasn't thinking about a possible allergic reaction. But note taken. I'll do better next time.