Ive been with someone for 2 years. He was caring,funny, and I really felt like I finally had a healthy relationship. About 6 months ago, we kept arguing and he could not communicate so I ended things.
We weren’t together for a month but still spoke here and there and during that time I started learning he has a problem with lying about dumb things. he would lie until defeat. Recently I decided to give him a chance to work on things. I asked him if there was anything he had to tell me about the month we weren’t together and he said no. I come to find out he asked a female for her IG at a party. I confronted him and he lied. He told me she was a childhood friend who he saw again at a recent family party. Eventually he told me that wasn’t true. Shes actually a family member of his in law and he broke down apologizing and told me he doesn’t know why he lies so much, that they never actually shared any intimate moment. That she was just hanging out with his family group. I do know his family was there and they wouldn’t allow any stupid moves because they don’t know we weren’t together at the time. I thought okay we talked it all out, you’re going to work on yourself and we can try and start over. Then I see he left a comment on a woman’s photo saying “I DM’ed you.” during that breakup time . when I confronted him he told me he reached out because a package of hers arrived so he let her know. But I pressed him and of course that wasn’t true. He has now come clean about looking for attention when we broke up and said he couldn’t bring himself to say what he did.
While we were together there was never any infidelity, no insecurity about him cheating and while we technically weren’t together, I’m hurt. It feels like he cheated and now I can’t believe anything.
I know my brain is trying to see the good in what we once had. And while I believe he wants to be better, I think he has so much baggage he needs to handle
And I know it’s not simple. He cried to me saying he doesn’t know what is wrong with him but that he never went beyond exchanging IG’s and DMing that woman