u/Left_Bread1323

Me and my coparent do not have a custody order we just verbally have said days he had them and created a schedule as of 6-7 months ago he went mia i was still communicating with him important things like medical education etc But recently i have cut down a lot ok it because is he didn’t ask why should i tell him. Now come this month im baptizing our son.( our other son was baptized when we were together) My question is should i notify him of the baptism or just let him miss out as i feel this is something big idk if he’ll care.

Alittle more context the reason i asked this is because i also let him know about my oldest kindergarten graduation and if he would be attending for our son and he said he’ll see to me that seemed like he didn’t care/

we recently separated about a year ago.

He’s been MIA for six months recently he got served for child support that I filed through DES.

we have our court hearing May 13th. I obviously know that this is only for child support not for custody. I believe he doesn’t. That’s besides the point I’m just stressed because I don’t know if I should file for custody soul decision-making custody. I don’t even know the right term because I obviously still want him to be a part of the kids life but I want to be the one that makes the decisions and because of the schedule he’s not able to keep them overnight and I have a stable home for them somebody who watches them. I work in the hours that my son is in school. He has autism so we’re in the work of getting him signed up for all his qualifying programs.

I just don’t know what to do no worries I’ve looked up the lawn, but lawyers are so expensive. I’m just scared he’s going to try to take full custody since he makes more money. I have so many questions and concerns. I just don’t know who can help or if there’s resource resources that help you navigate.