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I think I am doing okay now. I am actually starting to feel better about what happened. You know how they say that there is

1. Denial - How can this happen to me?
2. Anger - Why did it happen to me? Why him? Why me?
3. Bargaining - Turning to religion or spirituality
4. Depression - The dark phase, a dangerous place
5. Acceptance - You are able to cope with your situation

I don't recall going through each stage a step at a time. Somedays it felt that it was all happening at once, some days it was one step over the other.

But now I am able to find peace with was in the past. I'm okay with that. I read about people that one day they woke up and everything was fine for them. It didn't happen to me. I could feel the change in me. It took a lot of my resources -time, money, relationships

I am not saying that tomorrow will be okay. I cannot see tomorrow, I have no control over tomorrow. I have no control of the past either. But I cannot keep letting my past influence my future.

I have all the answers that I need. The past gave them to me, so why am I looking them in the future. I waited for that phone call for years. It never came, the past has told me. So why I do I wait for it in the future?

I only have now. I have this moment. This moment that I have used to type this post. In this moment, I am okay. I know that in the next moment I will be more okay. I have decided not to pursue my past anymore, I am thinking about it, but I won't do anything about it.

I wake up in the morning with an effect, the dreams are always about him, I see him, I have always seen him, it’s the same dream every time, with more characters, more plot twists and more drama. My brain is stuck in the past. I have memories stored in my body, in my soul. I tried talking about it with friends, family and therapist. I tried reading about, researching about it, I tried understanding. But I still see them everyday. I can’t control them, I cannot stop them, does this mean I will keep seeing these dreams for the rest of my life? Is this how it is going to be?

Hi, am trying to sell two Jetstar tickets from Wellington to Christchurch, have posted on various Facebook groups, is it worth spending more time on it or should I just accept the loss? I tried changing the dates, tried changing destinations, tried name change but any of the above combination ended up costing more than the original flight tickets. The tickets are not flexible. What should I do?

Trauma is the closest thing we have to time travel. The moment of trauma is imprinted on our minds., indelible ink on paper. Unlike ink, trauma doesn't fade over time. When activated by an event or a sense or a memory, the sufferer is transported back to the very moment of psychic injury. This dialectic causes a dissociation from reality. This psychic flight has a cost. Memory remains like the rot beneath the bank of a tree. Most trauma sufferers are reexperiencing real events that we cannot see. We call it disorder, for them a very reasonable way of escaping actual horror. To put it bluntly, they would be crazy not to be crazy. I watched this online in the series crowded room for reference.