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A few days ago I posted here about manifesting my ex back, and a lot of you told me to persist no matter what the 3D was showing me. That time I claimed that I will be back with my own success story , I guess I manifested it so here I am . here’s my update because honestly… I’m shocked.

A little backstory: my ex slowly pulled away, I became anxious, and eventually we broke up. Looking back now, I genuinely think I may have manifested the breakup through my fears and assumptions. Weeks aftter the breakup, I decided to consciously manifest him back.

I mainly focused on robotic affirmations, subliminals, and occasionally visualization. Even though I had doubts and suspected a possible 3P at times, I kept persisting.

And things started shifting FAST.

He began reacting to my Instagram stories more, messaging me, and even though some of it was hot and cold, I kept affirming instead of reacting to the circumstances.

Then yesterday he asked me to come over to watch a movie, and he confessed that he’s been thinking about me a lot. He told me he always felt like I was his person, wanted to reach out for a long time, and still has very strong feelings for me.

This is HUGE for me.

I still don’t feel like my manifestation is fully complete yet because I want the loving, obsessed,devoted version of him that I know exists. But being able to manifest THIS much has honestly motivated me so much to keep going.

What’s even crazier is that I also started applying manifestation to my career. Someone I had been waiting on for a referral finally responded after I started affirming about it too.

I genuinely feel like manifestation has changed my life. For anyone struggling right now: PERSISTT. Even when the 3D looks completely opposite.

For me, robotic affirmations helped the most, along with subliminals while sleeping. Sammy Ingram’s videos and the comments under her videos also really helped me stay motivated and stick to the story. To be honest, robotic affirmation has have been came change for me because sometimes I find it hard to visualise and that’s when I just affirm affirm, affirm. The only subliminal channel I follow on YouTube is high frequency guru.

Movement can happen so much faster than you think.

A few days ago I posted here about manifesting my ex back, and a lot of you told me to persist no matter what the 3D was showing me. That time I claimed that I will be back with my own success story , I guess I manifested it so here I am . here’s my update because honestly… I’m shocked.

A little backstory: my ex slowly pulled away, I became anxious, and eventually we broke up. Looking back now, I genuinely think I may have manifested the breakup through my fears and assumptions. Weeks aftter the breakup, I decided to consciously manifest him back.

I mainly focused on robotic affirmations, subliminals, and occasionally visualization. Even though I had doubts and suspected a possible 3P at times, I kept persisting.

And things started shifting FAST.

He began reacting to my Instagram stories more, messaging me, and even though some of it was hot and cold, I kept affirming instead of reacting to the circumstances.

Then yesterday he asked me to come over to watch a movie, and he confessed that he’s been thinking about me a lot. He told me he always felt like I was his person, wanted to reach out for a long time, and still has very strong feelings for me.

This is HUGE for me.

I still don’t feel like my manifestation is fully complete yet because I want the loving, obsessed,devoted version of him that I know exists. But being able to manifest THIS much has honestly motivated me so much to keep going.

What’s even crazier is that I also started applying manifestation to my career. Someone I had been waiting on for a referral finally responded after I started affirming about it too.

I genuinely feel like manifestation has changed my life. For anyone struggling right now: PERSISTT. Even when the 3D looks completely opposite.

For me, robotic affirmations helped the most, along with subliminals while sleeping. Sammy Ingram’s videos and the comments under her videos also really helped me stay motivated and stick to the story. To be honest, robotic affirmation has have been came change for me because sometimes I find it hard to visualise and that’s when I just affirm affirm, affirm. The only subliminal channel I follow on YouTube is high frequency guru.

Movement can happen so much faster than you think.

I’m currently manifesting my SP/ex back, but I’ve realized this journey is much bigger than just manifesting a person. I think I genuinely need to rewire myself and become a secure version of me.

I’ve noticed a pattern in my relationships: at first everything feels amazing, but once I get emotionally attached, I start becoming anxious, clingy, fearful, and emotionally dependent, doing „too much“ to prove my worth. Even in my last relationship, my boyfriend was initially doing everything to make me happy, and I was the one giving hot and cold behavior because deep down I felt insecure and felt like it was too good to be true. I genuinely loved him, but I think the constant overthinking, complaining, nagging, and fear eventually pushed him away.

And the hardest part is that this pattern doesn’t only exist in love. I also notice it in other areas of my life like career, opportunities, self-worth. It’s like my mind is wired to expect struggle, abandonment, or rejection. No trying to find a job for the last two years, but I got so used to the rejection that even before applying, I knew I was going to get rejected and slowly I stopped applying at all.

This is why I don’t just want to manifest my SP back. I want to become someone who feels secure, peaceful, loved, confident, and emotionally stable from within, so I stop sabotaging the things I truly care about.

For people who successfully rewired themselves and became more secure: what genuinely helped you long-term?

TL;DR:
Started dating a guy earlier this year who loved me in ways I had never experienced before. Things became unstable because he slowly pulled away while also struggling with his own life issues, and my anxious attachment made me react badly and desperately. Even after the breakup, he still showed care and emotional attachment, which gave me hope. Now he seems distant and possibly dating someone else, and I can’t stop thinking about him or let go, no matter how hard I try. I am usually the one who has the attitude “ if it is meant to be, it is meant to be” and try to move on, but this time I genuinely feel like he’s the person I want to be with.
I can’t seem to move on, or even want to think of someone else.

The STORY :

A bit of a long and messy post, so bear with me.

Earlier this year, I started dating someone. At first, I wasn’t even that into him, but he loved me in ways I had only imagined in my dreams. He showed up for me in ways I had never experienced before.

But then he slowly started pulling away. I’ll admit that I also didn’t have the most secure attachment style because of my past experiences, and I sometimes acted like an anxious crazy bitch. So I can’t blame him completely.

We had rough patches, but he would still reach out and say things like, “I want this to work out because I see you as my dream woman.”

As he became more distant, I turned into a complete anxious mess. Calling him multiple times, showing up at his door uninvited, desperately trying to talk/meet/call, humiliating myself in ways I had never acted before.

At the same time, he was also going through a rough period in his life — losing his job, issues with his toxic parents, struggling with self-confidence.

He would say things like:
“I don’t feel man enough.”
“I want to do so much for you but I don’t feel worthy.”
“I don’t feel anything at all.”

(What people would probably describe as avoidant behavior.)

The day we broke up, he called me after I got home and cried on the phone, saying he didn’t know what he was doing anymore. Even after the breakup, he would still text me occasionally, make small talk, show concern for me — but he seemed scared of the romantic intensity between us.

All of this happened in March.

I still have spare keys to his apartment and some of his belongings, which he never cared to pick up. I guess that gave me hope.

In April he became much more distant. And lately he’s been posting a lot on Instagram (we still follow each other), and I have this strong feeling he’s now in a long-distance relationship with someone else.

I’m someone who believes in manifestation/LOA, but I usually never do it for exes. Yet for some reason, I cannot let go of this one.

Right after the breakup, I actually became emotionally detached at first — which is usually how I cope because I feel everything very intensely. But now it’s getting worse and worse. I can’t get him out of my head. I love him so much that I genuinely don’t even want to think about anyone else.

A few weeks ago I saw him with another girl. I cried a lot afterward, but tried convincing myself she was probably just a friend. But now this feeling that he may actually be dating someone is making me physically sick to my stomach. I know it sounds dramatic, but I can literally feel the tension in my body and muscles.

And deep in my heart, I truly feel like he is the person I want to be with. Not because of ego. Not because I just “lost” someone.

I genuinely want him back. I can feel it in my bones that he is mine. But sometimes the feeling of lacking takes the best of me

TL;DR:
Started dating a guy earlier this year who loved me in ways I had never experienced before. Things became unstable because he slowly pulled away while also struggling with his own life issues, and my anxious attachment made me react badly and desperately. Even after the breakup, he still showed care and emotional attachment, which gave me hope. Now he seems distant and possibly dating someone else, and I can’t stop thinking about him or let go, no matter how hard I try. I genuinely feel like he’s the person I want to be with.

A bit of a long and messy post, so bear with me.

Earlier this year, I started dating someone. At first, I wasn’t even that into him, but he loved me in ways I had only imagined in my dreams. He showed up for me in ways I had never experienced before.

But then he slowly started pulling away. I’ll admit that I also didn’t have the most secure attachment style because of my past experiences, and I sometimes acted like an anxious crazy bitch. So I can’t blame him completely.

We had rough patches, but he would still reach out and say things like, “I want this to work out because I see you as my dream woman.”

As he became more distant, I turned into a complete anxious mess. Calling him multiple times, showing up at his door uninvited, desperately trying to talk/meet/call, humiliating myself in ways I had never acted before.

At the same time, he was also going through a rough period in his life — losing his job, issues with his toxic parents, struggling with self-confidence.

He would say things like:
“I don’t feel man enough.”
“I want to do so much for you but I don’t feel worthy.”
“I don’t feel anything at all.”

(What people would probably describe as avoidant behavior.)

The day we broke up, he called me after I got home and cried on the phone, saying he didn’t know what he was doing anymore. Even after the breakup, he would still text me occasionally, make small talk, show concern for me — but he seemed scared of the romantic intensity between us.

All of this happened in March.

I still have spare keys to his apartment and some of his belongings, which he never cared to pick up. I guess that gave me hope.

In April he became much more distant. And lately he’s been posting a lot on Instagram (we still follow each other), and I have this strong feeling he’s now in a long-distance relationship with someone else.

I’m someone who believes in manifestation/LOA, but I usually never do it for exes. Yet for some reason, I cannot let go of this one.

Right after the breakup, I actually became emotionally detached at first — which is usually how I cope because I feel everything very intensely. But now it’s getting worse and worse. I can’t get him out of my head. I love him so much that I genuinely don’t even want to think about anyone else.

A few weeks ago I saw him with another girl. I cried a lot afterward, but tried convincing myself she was probably just a friend. But now this feeling that he may actually be dating someone is making me physically sick to my stomach. I know it sounds dramatic, but I can literally feel the tension in my body and muscles.

And deep in my heart, I truly feel like he is the person I want to be with. Not because of ego. Not because I just “lost” someone.

I genuinely want him back. I can feel it in my bones that he is mine. But sometimes the feeling of lacking takes the best of me