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I actually cannot decide . Original trip was 8 nights 10 days Tokyo . But I found it’s too rushed and i quit my job now so I can go on longer trip. It’s in June …. Tickets and hotels for the 8 nights already booked.

I want to extend 3 more nights in Tokyo . And then 3 more nights Kyoto

Thing is Kyoto should it be 4 nights instead ? And then 2 nights Tokyo? Because I think is it too long in Tokyo? But I’m concerned Kyoto might run out of things and too many temples

I’m not sure if I will like Kyoto or Tokyo . But I had a lot of things in Tokyo I wanted to do I couldn’t fit in yet in the 8 nights. I am interested in anime, arcades, shopping, plushies , food and culture , some temples , goushin, nature / scenery , beach, parks , stationary , matcha , art

Here’s my Iternary so far :

🇯🇵JAPAN ITINERARY (6–15 JUNE)

✈️ 6 June — Arrival

* Arrive in Tokyo
* Hotel check-in
* Convenience store intro
* Rest

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🏙️ 7 June — Ginza + Imperial + Tokyo Station

🟡 Medium

* Imperial Palace East Gardens
* Tsukiji (optional)
* Ginza shopping (MUJI, Itoya, cafés)
* ⭐ Tokyo Character Street (main shopping stop)

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🎌 8 June — Asakusa + Akihabara

🔴 High

* Senso-ji Temple
* Nakamise Street
* Akihabara anime / arcades / shopping

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🌸 9 June — Shibuya + Harajuku

🔴 High

* Meiji Shrine
* Harajuku (Takeshita Street)
* Shibuya Crossing
* Shibuya Sky sunset 🌇

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🎢 10 June — DisneySea

🔴 Very High

* Full theme park day

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🌃 11 June — Shinjuku + Ikebukuro

🔴 High

* Shinjuku (Omoide Yokocho, Kabukicho, food streets)
* Ikebukuro (Sunshine City, Animate flagship, anime shopping)

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✏️ 12 June — Bungu Joshi + Flexible Add-on

🟡 Medium

* Morning: Bungu Joshi Fair (Ariake)

Optional (choose 1 only):

* Ueno (Ameyoko, anime browsing, chill walk)
* café hopping / Ginza revisit
* light walking / rest
go to roppongi for Mori art musuem and souveneirs

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🌿 13 June — Hakone

🔴 High

* Ropeway (Owakudani)
* Lake Ashi cruise
* Onsen experience

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🌊 14 June — Kamakura

🔴 High

* Great Buddha
* Hasedera Temple
* Komachi Street
* Beach sunset

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✈️ 15 June — Departure

🟢 Low

* Slow morning
* Packing
* Airport transfer

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I have a lot of fear and suppression of expressing emotions and when I do it’s guilt and shame esp negative feelings and lots of fear

Shouting and throwing and beating were common as a kid
And threats about throwing me out of the house etc

And abusive language

And one time I fractured my finger

I just realized it’s still messing me up. I thought I could just ignore it and cope but I don’t think it’s working

Already went therapy before CBT it’s not working to heal just give me relief

I am stressed I won’t have money in the future to continue therapy even if it helps

I’m really sad and angry and fed up tbh

What do you guys do?

Got beat and shouted scolded etc as a child for crying or have emotions that were negative or having my own opinion and expressing emotions.

It’s so messed up

I’m not sure how to get over it outside of therapy

I’m struggling a lot and would really appreciate honest perspectives from people who’ve been through something similar.

I live with Crohn's disease (currently in clinical remission), which happened through steroids , thioguanine and now azathioprine . I also started lexapro..

but I still deal with chronic pain, gut issues, fatigue, and severe body tension. Also IBS, reflux , anxiety and burning tongue . I feel like I have a lot of dysbiosis and issues still because I left the IBD untreated my whole life and undiagnosed (was told it was indeterminate) because nothing worked before , I had this issue since I was 2 months old and it was up and down with some pretty bad flares. And then I just left it in mild- moderate inflammation chronically and controlled my diet . It got better a bit but the inflammation was always there until I started taking the right meds recently in 2024.

Lately I think from the medication my tongue has started cracking like becoming fissured too.

Desk-based corporate/creative jobs have been making my symptoms worse, especially in rigid office environments without flexibility or proper ergonomics.

I recently left a creative/design role because I couldn’t cope physically and mentally anymore.

Now I feel stuck between options:

- I don’t want to stay in corporate creative/design work because it worsens my health

- I’m considering shifting into more admin/teaching/social work type jobs just to survive

- I also want money, stability, and eventually financial freedom so I can rest and focus on creative goals (illustration, storytelling, exhibitions, writing, film, media, etc.)

- I’m also really interested in trying to work in entertainment and media / film careers, especially in Western countries, because it seems more exciting, glamorous, and fun — but I know it can also be very intense and demanding, especially at the start with long hours, low pay, odd jobs, and a “grind” culture, and I’m not sure if it would even be sustainable or pay off in the end

- So I’m wondering if there are actually ways to enter those industries that are less intense or more stable, or if the reality is that you have to go through that kind of path first

- At the same time, I’m scared of “falling behind” in my creative career if I step away

- I also worry I might just be limiting myself by using health as a reason, even though the symptoms are real

It feels like no matter what I choose, I lose something important.

For people who’ve had to choose between health, money, and career:

- How did you decide what to prioritise?

- Did stepping away from your career damage your long-term prospects?

- Is it actually possible to return to creative/media/film fields after taking a less relevant or lower-stress job?

- How do you tell the difference between “I need to push through” vs “this environment is not sustainable”?
- If you had chronic illness or burnout, what worked for you long-term?

I feel bad using these symptoms as an excuse and just need to push harder to achieve my goals but honestly it isn’t working my symptoms just get worse . It’s frustrating . And it also makes me very depressed to the point I get those thoughts.

Any honest advice or personal experience would really help.