u/Legally_blonde_cooks

i'm not sure if this is the right sub for this, but i didn't really know where else to vent. law school has always been a goal of mine -- being an attorney was my end path for a long time. i got into my top school, with a great scholarship. i will have to take out loans to survive/pay the difference in tuition. i'll graduate with less debt than most, but will still have a decent amount (especially coupled w undergrad loans, which aren't much, but still there)

i'm 23 years old. i know this is my path, but i can't help but look around me and see teacher friends, nurse friends, friends who already finished grad school, moving onto their career jobs. making money, moving away, etc. my school is close to home (both bc the schools in Boston are great, and bc I could cut down on living costs), but i just feel so stuck. i know i shouldn't compare because our journeys are wildly different, but i just feel so sad. AI is everywhere, the job market is horrible. everyone says "you're going to be making so much money when you're done, it wont even matter!" but i fear thats just not the case. my friends moving out of state are telling me i need to visit, but fuel prices are out of the roof and i will not have a job lol. idk....

maybe its just the adjustment of starting a new chapter or whatever, but i just feel very lonely. no one around me really understands the time and financial commitment i'm making. has anyone felt this way during their journey? will it get better?

i'm sure someone has posted about this at some point, i just couldn't find it. my (23f) girlfriend (22f DX, unmedicated) constantly has the normal ADHD issues - timeliness, tidiness, focus etc. but i feel like she just makes her own problems, doesn't care to find a solution, but then freaks out about it.

for example: she will have a meeting at 12, but need to do errands during the day, and perhaps have plans later. the logical thing to do would be go do the errads before the meeting, so you have time when you get back you can attend your other plans. but instead its "no i'm gonna watch some tv or read before, then do errands" of course, this goes sideways every time. she'll get sidetracked with the tbv/show, not have time to run the errands, be late to the meeting, and now have to cram it all into the end of the day/not be able to do it at all. then the next day its "ugh i can't believe i have to do these errands today!" its so frustrating. nothing i ever suggest is taken into account. it happens almost every day. literally the problems are created by her unwillingness to get medicated (which she also pushes to the side at any opportunity) or her inability to see the patterns from her actions. it makes me sad when she is constantly rushing/frustrated/overwhwelmed but at a point its hard to feel bad. does anyone else feel like their partner creates their own problems, and then uses it as fuel to make more problems/complain?

EDIT: so surprised at how many comments/conversation this post sparked! thanks all for an interesting discussion and some strategies to help handle this. sending good vibes to all! you guys rock

Applied Dec 15. Just got an update TODAY, waitlist. which is insane bc its already may basically. already committed to my top choice so i don't care, but thats so dissapointing from them