u/Legitimate-Physics81

Here’s a scary thought experiment: imagine every person on Earth finds a partner, has exactly one child, and lives happily ever after. Sounds fine, right? But that would mean a total fertility rate of 1 — and the population would shrink rapidly over time, and eventually lead to the extinction of the human race.

So the real issue isn’t whether people have kids at all. It’s the number of kids per family. Just having 1 child isn't good enough. In fact, having 1 child should be treated the same as having no children.

tbh I think this situation is completely irreversible at this point

I’m an ENTJ, and I find INTPs extremely attractive, but a lot of people don't. I realized recently that it’s not because there’s anything wrong with INTPs. It’s more about how personality distribution works and what most people are naturally drawn to.

Most people aren’t attracted to classic INTP traits: reserved, highly analytical, detached, not very expressive socially. In a world that rewards charisma, emotional expressiveness, and confidence upfront, INTPs can come across as distant or hard to read.

But that doesn’t mean INTPs are “less attractive” — it just means they’re attractive to a smaller subset of people.

If you look at so-called “golden pairings,” INTPs tend to match best with types like ENTJ, ENFJ, and INFJ. These are some of the rarer personality types. So statistically, INTPs just have fewer natural matches walking around.

Compare that to types like ESTP or ESFP — the stereotypical “chad” personalities. They’re outgoing, socially dominant, and align well with types like ISTJ and ISFJ, which are much more common. That gives them a numbers advantage in dating and social success.

So it’s not that ESTPs/ESFPs are inherently better — they just fit more easily into the broader population.

On the flip side, INTPs have a different dynamic. When they do find someone who really gets them, it’s often a much deeper and more stable connection. Less competition, more long-term potential.

What do you guys think???