Flirting as an awkward baby gay
I’ve just started dating women and have noticed that I FREEZE whenever I’m getting hit on IRL. Online/over text I have the time to think and craft up witty responses, and most importantly, I don’t have to SEE the person’s body language/reaction, which always makes me overthink in anticipation or after the fact.
There’s been so many times where someone is clearly flirting with me and even though I may be very attracted to them I will be stiiiiiff and just smile and chuckle awkwardly even though my brain is screaming DO SOMETHIIIIING. For example I was at the club with my friend the other day and a ton of women were very obviously hitting on me but I would just dance awkwardly next to them and start hovering back to my friend to the point that my friend physically turned their back on me to push me to be in closer proximity to the (very pretty and nice and respectful!!) ladies that wanted my attention. It’s really frustrating because I want to dance with them, touch them, etc, but it’s like my brain gets overwhelmed with the logistics of it and makes me freeze.
The overthinking plays a big role I think because I’m ND, like I was sitting next to this girl on a date recently and I was like (in my head) “our legs are close to each other. Can I let my leg touch hers? Is that too much? What if she moves away” etc etc etc. The only times in my life I have flirted with someone irl is when I was tipsy which I know isn’t a healthy coping skill! Ugh can anyone help a baby gay out plz??